how do i remove fear from me the only way i do somthing back is when my tempor comes out.?

Answer 1

Fear is one of the six basic emotions we are born with, You can't remove it from you as it is there for a purpose; to protect you. Although you can't stop it from arising you can control what you do about it after it is there. The old adage is, "Face what you fear!"

When someone says or does something that frightens you just stand your ground and "choke down" the feeling you have to "get out of here" or get angry and "lash out" That may be hard at first but it gets easier the more you stay put and face your persecutor. Don't run and don't let anger replace the fear; just stay cool and calm.

The fact that you have dissembled your emotional reaction is likely to throw the source of your fear off guard. Your calmness allows you time to think of an appropriate polite answer or act. That answer or act will likely further consternate the perpetrator of the fearful event.

The more experience you get in doing this the more confident you will get that it is a workable reaction and the fear you experience in future incidents will have less effect on you. Just don't get "cocky" and start doing things so as to frighten others thus taking up the practices of a bully.