I am 16 and my sister is 14. My parents always ask me question about my life and are so protective of what I am doing, where I am going, and who I am with. They were always this way since I was a little kid. They were never this way with my sister. They never seem to care about what she does and is very lenient with her. It is very unfair. My friends and cousins always ask me this question and laugh at me because they think that I am the stupid one and my sister is the smart one, but it is not true. I am so embarassed. I always get good grades and listen to my parents and my sister doesn't get good grades and barely listens to my parents. Why are parents so unfair?
2007-04-01 05:44:53 · 14 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
because they dont trust you
2007-04-01 05:50:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u r too close person, u don't share about ur news or feelings about anything/anyone with ur parents /mom and that's why they don't know how u think, what u think, what is ur character...
U have to let them to understand ur inner world to deal with u easier.
It's just a parenting thing. U r a teenager and they want to know if u r on ur right way as u don't tell them anything.
Don't blame them; I see they love u too much.
The best thing u can do, is to talk to them quiet and nice how u feel and ask them to trust u as the way they raised u is very safe and clever. So they have to trust the girl they are raising. Tell them that u know ur boundaries, that u know the right and the wrong, that u r mature enough to know how to behave.
Tell them that u'll need their advices if there is smth. u can't solve.
Good luck!
2007-04-01 06:11:59 · answer #2 · answered by Panther 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its no being unfair. trust me they know u are smart and they know all about your grades. but partents know when threre is a PROBLEM CHILD at which they created this way. They already know u r the one thats going to turn out the best & your sister, well i won't go there. and they have the right as parents to know all about your business while u r under their roof & don't u forget that. as far as being embarassed don't be. keep your head up & continue to stay on the right path and sooner r later u will see i'm right.
2007-04-01 05:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents tend to learn to be parents when raising their first child. So the second one is often treated a bit differently.
Also, the children's own style may have an impact.
Based on the experience from my own family, I would not envy a child who does not listen to her parents. That is what my sister did, and at age 40 she still blames our parents for she way she was raised and she still makes them responsible for the miseries of her adult life!
So, be yourself and do not compare with your sister.
2007-04-01 05:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey your parents love you both equally... but sometimes they just don't konw how to say it. Your parents are protective of you , because they care about you. If you really think this is getting out of hands, the best suggestion I can give you is to talk to them and tell them you need some space of your own. I hope they will understand.
2007-04-01 06:31:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you need to to talk to your counsler at school and create an intervention with you and your parents.sometimes parents dont understand what they are doing.and it takes someone else in a professinal eye to help them understand. keep doing a good job and strive for yourself.parents dont gtheir parents and the cycle goes on unless some one shows them a better way
2007-04-01 05:54:25 · answer #6 · answered by blue2602001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents care about you that's why they ask you questions. Maybe they feel they somehow failed as a parent with your sister & want to make sure they don't fail as a parent with you. There is nothing wrong with them asking questions. You shouldn't be embarrassed about it either. Be happy that they love you. If you don't have family.....you don't have anything.....
2007-04-01 05:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by simplesimon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appreciate the fact that they pay attention to you and care about what you are doing. Both of my girls claim that I love the other one more. But I love them both more than I could ever describe. Just realize that your parents love you and want you to be the best you can be. We do the best we can. And if it bothers you that much just ask them.
2007-04-01 05:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because your the oldest...my parents are the same way
im 16 and my brother is 14
he never gets in trouble for anything
your best bet is to suck it up
and deal with your rents
you only have 2 years left with them anyway
and what i would do
is when you move out
get your sister in deep s**t so she can live in hell for a while
thats what im doing with my brother when i turn 18
=D
2007-04-01 05:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by sam 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They just care a lot about you!!
You should talk , and tell them that you appreciate that they care about you, but that they are too protective.
2007-04-01 05:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is so nice that care for you and what you do this is OK. if this is to much for you them to back off a little and see if that will help you.
2007-04-01 05:51:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋