my boyfriend's mum only lets us see each other 2 days a week (must be a weekend) for 2 hours at a time, and it has to be on her terms. am i right in thinking that that's completely ridiculous? she hates my guts and i don't know why.
2007-04-01 05:44:27 · 35 answers · asked by Fiona 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are both 16, but more mature than she gives us credit for. and, she has come out and SAID to my boyfriend that she hates me. and, i have HELPED his grades. they have improved since we've been together because i am an intelligent person and i help him with his work. so NOW what's her excuse?
2007-04-01 05:58:25 · update #1
oh, and i am completely nice and respectful to her to her face. and she also has 2 daughters.
2007-04-01 05:59:35 · update #2
we have been together for a year (mar. 30 2006) and sometimes when we get together, we just talk. she thinks that i just want him for sex, because i'm his first girlfriend, but that's SO far from the truth. i'm not being dramatic when i say this kid saved my life more than once.
2007-04-01 06:03:32 · update #3
Too right! Try to find out what her problem is. Most likely there isn't a problem and you've done nothing wrong so don't blame yourself. She's probably jealous and thinks she's losing her son to you. Have words with him, he needs to talk to her if he loves you and wants to see you more. You don't say how old you are? If he's over 16 there really is no excuse and she's just being a domineering b***h. Talk to him and try to find a solution.
Good luck x
2007-04-01 05:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by jellybean55 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No girl, you are not at all being ridiculous. My Mother in law hate my guts. She actually told my mother that she wished she could pick who her son falls in love with. She pretends that things are great between us when I'm around her, but as soon as I'm not around, all she does is talk bad about me. She even moved to the same apartment complex as us. Thankfully in two months we are going to be moving.
If I may ask, how old are you and your boyfriend?
Before my boyfriend turned 18, she had a very tight lease on him. She barely let me come over, and on our 6th month anniversary, she wouldn't let him leave the house and she wouldn't let me come over, then the next time we saw each other, she asked me what was wrong and I told her that she ruined our anniversary and all she could say was, "well you could have came over, I wouldn't have minded", yeah right!
Anyway, we just put up with her until we could move out and be on our own. Today we have a son together,we've been together for over four years now, and now there is nothing she can do to get me out of her sons life! I feel like, since I stuck with him through the BS from his mom, that I have won. She may not like me, and she doesn't have to, but I now get to enjoy her son and her grandson.
So hang in there, blow it off, and if you really love each other, one day you will have your peace from her!
2007-04-01 05:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is being ridiculous here... You want what you want, and thats understandable. But she wants to protect her son. Regardless of what you think she feels about you, she's holding the cards, so you have to play on her terms. If she wanted to, she could say not to see him at all. If you just tough it out, and make the most of the time she does give you two, she may come to see that you are not the person she originally thought, and that you are well intentioned. Time is on your side.
Best of luck to you in overcoming this obstacle, patience will pay off.
2007-04-01 05:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by John N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom is doing her job, honey!! You two don't need to be left alone for any length of time because Mom is smart - she knows how young people are if left alone too much. She wants you both to do your school work during the week and then she has plans for her family on the weekend. You're lucky you get 4 hrs. of his time!! She doesn't hate you, honey. She's just being a good Mom. You'll appreciate her a lot more later in your life. Give her a break and email your boyfriend during the week. Godloveya.
2007-04-01 05:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let's face it- your boyfriend's mom is being way overprotective. Why? Probably because she knows that you and her son have a romantic connection (no matter how mild) and you are a girl like her, so she's jealous that her son will start to like you more than her. If I were you, I would approach her about it (with your boyfriend) and talk about why she doesn't seem to like you. With time, you should reach a compromise at least. Good luck :)
2007-04-01 05:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by Penelope L 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're right... that's absolutely ridiculous!!! But, his mamma doesn't want to let her little boy go. She is afraid of him getting too close because girlfrieds end up in marriage, marriage leads to honeymoons, honeymoons lead to sex, sex leads to kids, and that leads to her little boy moving out and having his own life and family away from her. She probably doesn't hate u, tho. lol
2007-04-01 05:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by KATE M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be she is too overprotective of his kid.She may love him so much and she want to make sure he is in good hands,after knowing you better.You should accept this situation for awhile,but if you see that you are in your best behavior,but things remain the same you should give up,because you are going to have a mother in law of hell,forever in your ***,but if you think you are stubborn enough to conquer her,go ahead,fight for your love.
2007-04-01 05:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Starmn 8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fiona, you don't say how old you are, but if you're younger than 18, say, your bf's mum is within her rights to limit contact. She doesn't hate your guts, honey. She wishes her son to concentrate on his studies and not be distracted by young nubile females.
Don't try to break the rules unless you want to break up with the boy.
2007-04-01 05:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriends mother is completely off the rails - you should tell her this to her face with added venom - then sit back and watch her retract like a frightened mouse.If it don't work she will probably slap you silly and you will loose your bf.
Choice is yours hunny!!
2007-04-01 05:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
she's jealous to see u together,she's oveerprotective or she's just a ***** do what the hell u want and if yall really liked or loved eachother....u'd sneak,lol well if ure grown enough to be out the house then thats a advantage but for rite now.....be sneaky.....and if u get caught....be sneaky again its not like she can put her hands on u
2007-04-01 05:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by LaxBaby. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋