I am really sorry about the situation your sister is in and I do pray that she finds God. I'm sure you know as well as I do that He works in mysterious ways and that your sister will realize He is there someday. When or how is uncertain. Maybe tomorrow or a week from now either way it will take time for her to come around. Just keep praying and don't lose faith(though you probably have no intention of doing so). The more you pray the better the chance of you having your sister back clean and safe and sound in the arms of her loved one(s). So be prepared with open arms so she will know just how much love you and God have for her. And don't just pray. If possible, give her a call some time just to see how she's doing, maybe even invite her to come to church with you, maybe even send her a gift- nothing fancy just a little something-, even if she is in some bad scrapes, let her know that you are thinking of her and that you still love her. But don't be so quick to push the drug issue, it doesn't help if you talk about it everytime you talk to each other. Talk about something different, positive even. Even if she brings up the topic try not to talk about it so much, just lightly. To be honest with you, I never had a younger sibling to look after and care for, but I always wanted one. Knowing that there are people like you who care dearly for their sibs is really touching and I'm glad to know there are. I'm 19 now and I still wish I had a little bro. or sis. to love and protect! But since I don't I don't know what it's like to have one........But I hope you don't lose yours. Good Luck and May God Bless You.
2007-04-01 06:04:25
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answered by Raven_of_Kafka 2
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First off, I need to tell you how proud I am of your getting clean. You ought to be very proud of yourself, too.
My question, I guess, is haven't you considered that inviting your sister into your home B4 she's detox'd is not only asking for trouble, but it will positively set the entire household off center.
Yes, I know it's your sister and yes, I know you want her to be safe and taken care of better, but...YOUR VERY LIFE IS ALSO AT STAKE HERE WITH HER IN YOUR VERY ENVIRONMENT! Does your husband also want her in the home? I know your dad does because he feels guilty--for that matter, so do you and that's why I question your silent motivation here to allow drugs back into your own precious life.
YOU are not a professional (sorry, but the truth hurts) who is what is needed to deal with your sister.
You already said that Sis doesn't want to be there. She's showing some good sense in her not wanting YOU involved back in drugs, which is, odds on, apt to happen and I think if your really honest with yourself, you will admit that you "could" fall off the wagon from both stress and the easy availability--and this is what you'll be inviting back into your life, not a beloved sister. She's not the sister she used to be just as you're not the person you used to be, are you? OR ARE YOU?
If it were me in your position, I'd really have to say to myself, Self, am I really strong enough with prayer and all to invite back those same things I pray to be rid of?
I TRULY HOPE THIS HELPS - YOU ALL HAVE MY PRAYERS.
2007-04-01 12:55:21
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answered by MJ D 3
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I will pray for her and unfortunately you know it best unless your ready to end that life you won't.
My mother has been a drug addict for years and doesn't care about anyone but herself.
If you want to take exreme measures theres a show call Intervention on A&E I don't know how long the process is but you could see about that.
or...
Stage an intervention yourself and get her help in a rehab far away from Nashville.
Good Luck and congrats to you for be cleaniang and staying that way.
2007-04-01 12:37:24
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answered by colie 3
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first-let me congratulate you on becoming drug free. it's a long hard road you traveled and you should be very proud of yourself. hoorah!
i will pray for your little sis so that she may be safe and hopefully realize that life is more fun without the added drama.
i will pray for you and dad too so that you can find comfort and peace. i'm really not a very religious person but i do pray. i think it helps.
perhaps, if she'll listen, you could get her into rehab. i know it may not happen but, it's worth a shot. having her stay with you is a nice offer but it will be very tough. she won't give up the drugs for anyone and you could be putting yourself in a really bad position. it's wonderful that you want to help her so badly but, as you know, she won't do it for anyone but herself. you may just have to let it go for now and hope for the best.
good luck to you and your family. god bless.
2007-04-01 12:45:50
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answered by racer 51 7
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I can empathize with you. I too have family members with issues. It is a difficult thing to take someone into your home. Be careful! Lay down structure and rules right away. Stick to your guns. If your younger sister is over 18, you will have to ride it out. Intervention is a possibility, but sometimes a person has to hit rock bottom before they are ready to make a change. Dont let her behavior ruin your relationships.
I have been burned several times, remember 'screw me over once, shame on you. Screw me over twice, shame on me!' Good luck and I will send your family positive thoughts and energy!
2007-04-01 22:32:39
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answered by ahzreem 3
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all you can do is let her know that you and the family will be there for her but if you keep pushing the drug issue it will only make her want to do it more she has got to find her own way and i know it is hard to see her like this becuse i went through it with my brothers but sometimes you have got to let them hit rock bottom before they will stop and i will say a prayer good luck
2007-04-01 12:43:03
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answered by missy n 1
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sometimes praying isn't enough.
your sister needs to go to rehab and get clean.... she must have the desire and will to stop using. addics don't care about anything but their habit (but many times, they do want to quit, they just don't know how...)
perhaps you could go to a couple of Narcotics Anonymous meetings -- you will learn quite a lot from the members, and they will be happy to answer your questions.
you can also visit the link below -- Narcotics Anon chatroom also features stories, forums and other helpful information.
it's wonderful of you to offer your sister a place to live... it seems as though she has been through quite a lot in her life... i hope she will recover and that her life improves...
she's in my prayers.. hugz
2007-04-01 12:55:37
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answered by Anonymous
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Your sister experienced a great loss at a very young age. She is hurt and angry and extremely unhappy and instead of dealing with those feelings she's masking them. As a former drug user, I suspect you can relate to that need to escape rather than face your issues. I've been through a very similar experience with a couple of people who are very close to me. As an observer you see and know the danger out there and you see and know and love your sister. The only thing you can do to help her is continue to let her know you love her and continue to pray for her. Asking others to pray for her is more helpful than you know.
People have to go through their own experiences in their own way and they have to resolve their own issues in their own time. It is sometimes much more difficult for a family member to have to sit back and watch and wait and hope and pray. I have seen several people come out of their drug experience to go on and help others with similar issues. In life we have to experience hard times in order to be able to use that experience to help others.
I am praying with you that your sister will soon see what she is here to do and what she has to learn from the life she is now living. She is mourning the loss of a baby. As a former drug user, you know she won't stop until she's ready. As difficult as it is, try to remind yourself that she has to live her own life path and continue to pray that she will soon find her way. As much as you love her, you can't live her life for her and you are not responsible for her. There will come a day when you see her shine and you and she will both be able to look back on these days and see why they were necessary.
Ask the angels for help for her until she is able to ask for herself. In your mind's eye, see her surrounded by Archangel Raphael who is a healer and Archangel Michael who gives us strength. See her as happy and healthy and strong. Before you know it you will see an improvement in her. I wish you both peace and love.
2007-04-01 13:22:37
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answered by innerradiancecoaching 6
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Help your sister... I'm sure she wants it - even if says she doesnt. Everyone deserves a li'l help. Help her kick drugs- its a bad habit . Since you got off drugs... tell you sis she can do it too - get her to rehab... ASAP.
I will pray for her and her safety.
2007-04-01 13:35:07
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answered by Anonymous
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good luck I'll be praying for you all. My parents ran a drug/alcohol rehibilitation center...Its tough stuff
2007-04-01 12:41:02
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answered by Ria B 3
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