IS THIS WIERD< I never had a boyfriend?

Question

Ok so I'm 16 have 2 more years of high school left, but I never had a boyfriend in my whole life and I'v never been kissed, my friends think it's strange, but the reason why I never had one is that #! I'm a Indian/ Sikh my dad doesn't have a problem with me dating but my doesnt want me to.
#2 I myself just wanted to concentrate on my studies instead of getting into relationships that might not even last that long, is that wrong. and recently I'v been asked by 12 guys so far i'v turned them all down, Should I have done that, know I feel guilty to hurt there feelings, but i'm not sure i want to get into a relationship just yet, do you guy's think what I'm doing is right?

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Answer 1

You have lots of time to date. Keep studying, you'll know when the time is right.

Answer 2

absolutely not, and let me say I'm proud of you for thinking more of your studies than a relationship. Eat up all the knowledge you can, while your young. If you don't want to go out with anyone, don't feel guilty about that. Just say no politely and there is no reason that any ones feeling should be hurt. Always follow what your heart feels is the right thing to do. You will have the rest of your like to date and find a good relationship, and the older you are the better decisions you will make concerning these relationships. So Please take your time. With all that said, I do hope you are going out with friends and enjoying your youth, studies are very important, but so is being young and enjoying it.

Answer 3

I'm European and I had my first bf when I was 17, we kissed 3 or 4 times (not french ones) and I dumped him cause I realized I want more than that. Before dating him I was thinking "oh God, I'm the last in our group that had no bf and never been kissed, I have to have a bf to be like everybody is". After dating this guy I was thinking it's not worth it, I'm better off alone than with a guy that's not my type. I found my type 3 years later and had our first kiss when I was 25 and he was 28. I'm 26 now. I'd say focus on your studies, you have times for boyfriends later. You could never turn back the time to study and become someone in life, it's now when you have to do it. If you meet a boy meanwhile, and you really like when he's around, his way of being, his conversation, you can start dating him. But don't date one now just to be like other girls are. You deserve more than that.

Answer 4

I didn't have a boyfriend until I was almost 18.
My parents had the rule of no dating until I was 16 and no one really asked me out until I was a Senior. There is nothing wrong with it. I worked and concentrated on my studies too.
After high school I didn't have a date for a year. It happens and you need to make sure you are happy.
Even without much dating in high school, I found my husband when I was 19 and we married 4 years later. I am very happy and have no complaints. To top it off, my husband is the only man I ever had sex with by my choice.
You are not weird and as long as you are happy that is all that matters.

Answer 5

I think you have the right idea focus on your self and your goals first. Then focus on relationships if thats what you want.

I think if more people were true to them selves their ambitions before getting into relationships there would be a lot more happier people and a lot less divorces.

Its not weird that you don't have a boyfriend. Some people engage in relationships before they are teenagers, some not until well after. People like you who are goal oriented and not relationship / sex crazed tend to go far in life.

Also don't be worried about hurting anyones feelings the best thing you can do is be honest and straight froward otherwise there feelings would have been even more hurt in the long run.

Answer 6

It's not weird. you're still young, and I commend you for setting your priorities straight. Don't worry about hurting those 12 boys that you rejected, 'cos rejection is part of life. My point is, the moment they'd decided to ask you out they know that they're in a position to get hurt and I don't see why you should feel guilty about rejecting them, but that quality shows that you have a compassionate personality. Your kindness will not go unnoticed. Be patient, the time will come. I believe what you're going through right now is called a "peer pressure".

Answer 7

You're perfectly normal. People decide to start dating at different times in their life and many times they will wait until after college. Your friend's confusion likely stems from the fact that dating is fun, and they don't see why you'd deny yourself the pleasure. Whenever you're ready to date, be it ten days from now or ten years from now, it can take as little or as much time out your schedule as you'd like. You could make it clear that you're only available from 6-10 on Fridays, and eating together for lunch. You sound intelligent and disciplined. I'm sure you'll be able to navigate this part of high-school. Good luck.

Answer 8

Hi Aurora:
I think you should follow your heart. Listen to your inner voice that tell you right from wrong. When the time comes for you to fall in Love, it will hit you very strongly and you will feel the desire. It is my experience that many men have desires that are physical and wish to satisfy a male function for their satisfaction. There interest in you may be only that. I have also found that Love comes to those who wait and when least expected. It sounds to me that you are wise for your youth. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you and there is no rush to find someone. If it is meant to be it will happen. Relationships happen for Love or lessons. Which do you want. Maybe not the hard lessons many relationships bring.
Rev. TomCat

Answer 9

Only YOU can judge yourself, firstly. However, since you obviously want outside opinions, here's mine based on personal experience.

I am 31. I had my FIRST boyfriend at age 18 after graduating HS. I kept my virginity until I was 21. The relationship ended when I graduated college and went on to graduate school. My boyfriend was a stable influence on me, he was smart and kind of nerdy, but so was I. I wanted my education before marriage like you. Now I completed graduate school. Right after getting my graduate degree I married my live-in boyfriend.

Everything is possible. Just pace yourself. If you worry about guys' feelings, then compromise and offer to be friends. If they can't do that then you know all they want is sex. Unless you're ready for sex and all of it's beautiful and ugly effects, I suggest you keep your head in the books like I did.

Good luck!

Answer 10

No, it's not weird. It means you have parents with a clue. I didn't let any of my daughters even think about dating until after 16 and I actively discouraged it in high school. My oldest daughter (who you would probably recognize if you watch videos on mtv as she has been in several as a dancer) is marrying her 2nd boyfriend in August. He's the only man she's been sexually active with and that began AFTER the engagement. (Personally, I wish they would have waited until the marriage.)

I think you are very lucky to have such parents and such an attitude. You sound like a wonderful young woman, but your avatar looks older than 16.

Answer 11

it is going to take position by technique of itself..... my boyfriend & i met at the same time as i became very almost 19 years previous. i in no way even made any guy acquaintances on my own until eventually my boyfriend and that i met. i nevertheless haven't the different guy acquaintances than him. ALL of my acquaintances are the nice and comfy, latina beauties that been through such extremely some relationships. i'm a skinny white shy lady. it really is merely no longer well worth the difficulty to get centred on unnecessary relationships. besides to all their relationships, they have been in countless depressions because they theory he became "the only." i does no longer complication about it. once you pass to school and get a occupation you'll locate someone with a similar interests like yours and also you may take to one yet another. if that would not fulfill you, i ought to recommend merely growing to be a member of golf equipment to get to satisfy human beings and keep a recurring so human beings get to work out you frequently and get to understand you and have self assurance you and prefer you.