My ex ended things 2 mths ago as "her feelings had changed". At the time things ended, her dr said she was depressed (she has a history) and prescribed prozac & counselling. She then said she wasn't depressed and the relationship was the cause and ended things.
She got back into contact with me. One minute she was interested, the next not. So I wrote to her and said I wanted to be with her irrespective of her problems. She ignored the issue and said that she was of the view we "weren't meant to be together" and "I was such a good person and I would find someone who would make me happy but she cannot do that" I have said I want her for who she is regardless!
I have started moving on a been on 2 dates with someone else. She has also been on dates. I still think of her & want to be with her but I need to move on if she is not interested.
My ex has now said it would be nice to see me tonight as I am nr her place? I will tell her that she must decide on me or let me go? Reasonable?
2007-04-01 04:58:34 · 11 answers · asked by bepositive1976 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You need to cut her a bit of slack if shes on Prozac.
2007-04-01 05:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Piztaker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to think of how you feel about your feeling towards her too.
Its all too easy to separate as people, its the separation of feelings that's extremely hard. I feel one of the most under-rated aspect of any relationship is the friendship.
No doubt during your time together you have supported each other, cared, loved. These are the simple things that are hard to let go off. They don't just suddenly disappear when a relationship breaks down. We can deny them, but they are always in the back of our minds.
If you do not feel that the relationship will stand the test of time, maybe being there for her a friend maybe what she needs to overcome her depression. No doubt you will have to have clear boundaries between yourselves.
Any action will inevitably depend on your strength. At the end of the day tho, these are your feeling and only you can listen to your heart.
Good luck
2007-04-03 05:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by essex_reject77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a headcase m8, she blames you for the breakup but wants to get back together all a sudden? Give it a month or two, guaranteed she'll be right on track doing what she does. But still try to be there for her as a friend. You had a relationship, it just won't be the same anymore
2007-04-01 05:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reasonable, yes, but a mistake.
You have declared enough, the ball is (still) in her court. Even if she declares interest again, proceed with caution.
I think you are definitely right to start dating, even though you are still wanting her. That is a certain amount of moving on.
In other words, wait, but bring a book lol,
2007-04-01 05:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex-wife came back for a long weekend and kept on dropping remarks like "we seem to have got on so well, we ought to do it for longer"
I kept on saying "not in my lifetime"
She was ready to go on the monday morning and her mobile 'phone rang, she dashed out to the garden but I still heard her making sweet-talk to someonelse.
2007-04-01 05:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Bill(56 yrs old) 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Reasonable? Not to me. Dump her, she is too undependable, for a serious relationship. If you've been dating, you are now aware that there are others out there who are interesting, and interested. Let her straighten herself out. You don't need the aggravation.
2007-04-01 05:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by Beau R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I seriously think this woman is playing mind games because you've asked a question like this before asking us if you think you should break clean. I think this woman is immature and needs to get a grip. Best of luck to you on this one as I think this woman is playing head games with your head!
2007-04-01 05:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's reasonable to ask her to decide - but just be warned that if she chooses you now, will she still feel that way in a week or a month?
2007-04-01 05:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by T Time 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it's great that you are so supportive of her even though she hasn't treated you that well in the past. but i do agree and think that you should give her the ultimatum so you aren't in turmoil your whole life wondering if she wants you back or not.. good luck i hope it works out for the best!
2007-04-01 05:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
totally! For someone that said she was unhappy with the r/ship - she sure aint letting you go......... tell her to make up her mind as it is certianly not fair on you.
2007-04-01 06:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋