im 102kg and i dont understand why im judged by my weight. im still me on the inside.... but when large men 100kgs+ are not judged??? i just cant understand the big deal about weight i mean why are women judged more than men????
2007-04-01 04:56:38 · 17 answers · asked by ANGEL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
immaturity,some never grow up
2007-04-01 05:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by igottadrive2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do women judge men on thier car, thier body in general, baldness, dick size. same deal. live in a plastic society. if ur so worked up bout it and seem to have your own issues with it. change it. not that hard. and, when your talking about weight as in weight weight. in general a bloke will weigh more than a woman while the body appears smaller. different body structure. a 6' tall man is naturally going to weigh more than a 5'7 woman. and appear of 'normal' proportions.
being overweight wether a woman or a man should be judged. it is just unsafe. and a turn off to most people. a normal proportioned woman i'm sure would not willingly be with an over weight man and be like oh yeah that looks good.
2007-04-01 05:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by Matt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most men like slim or fit women. And most women like fit men, but not overweighted ones. Fat men are also judged, for me personally a man with belly is a turn off. I wouldn't date such a man. Maybe men are thinking the same about a fat woman. So, what you have to do now is have a healthy diet, practise gym. You won't be only a great looking woman, but also a healthy person, happy, active and full of joy to live life.
2007-04-01 05:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as how it looks, I don't judge men or women on their weight. That being said, I have to ask myself why these people don't care about their health enough to lose the weight. Heart disease, diabetes, etc. Do you want to die young, and in pain? I just don't get it. And that crap about being "big boned"....gimme a break. Also I know a few overweight people who complain about a lack of willpower. How much willpower can it possibly take to not want to die?
2007-04-01 05:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Deez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sy to hear that but its so true. I feel from personal experience its to make them feel better. Kind of like a trophy they can show off. But man dont tell them they are out of shape, belly over the belt, they get all put off. I was married to a marine for 25 years and they wanted the wifes to make them look good. I personally think it should be a personal choice what women want to look like. We have kids and gravity works. Men should be thankful but i really dont think it will happen. D
2007-04-01 05:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a fact that exist not just in men but also women. Its just human's nature that they like to see nice things. Even if mixing with friends of same gender, the better looking one tends to be more popular. Thats why women likes to flirt with handsome guys, men like to go for pretty women. The definition of attraction varies between people, just like the depth of widsom are different between everyone. We can only try to look beyond this and accept the fact that we are just born, not with a defect, but with some errors that we have to put in some hardwork to correct and thereafter maintain it.
That is pretty much the case when I used to think that those who are slim are just blessed. Well, small part of our slim friends, yes, but others, they had gone through the same rejections enough to make them want a good figure badly. They had enough of the fatso in the mirror each time. They go dieting or exercise or lipo suction to get to the shape they want. At the end of the day, it shows there's a price to pay. Its true to some extend there's no ugly men/women, just lazy. I still never like gym and running. I'm only going there to be fitter on a bike.
Its quite different when it comes to who you choose to settle down with. Men/women would tend to lower the outlook expectations in exchange for some security. Not quite true I would say, but many like to think this way, but proven wrong by my ex-wife whom I never find her good looking since day 1 I know her. So, looking it in a better way, those men that comes to you certainly will be those who are able to settle. Sometimes being good looking means you have to be cheated a few more times, or in some sad case many more times and maybe you get to find your Mr. Right. Patience is all you need.
In case you don't believe that, well, again, I met this wonderful gal some 16 months ago, that till today, I still love her very much even though she didn't love me back. Well, she doesn't have big eyes which I like, she cut away her long hair which I prefer, she falls 3 inches short from the height I like, and when I last met her, she's starting to have tummy. Just great! So why I do I still love her? Coz I know with her, I can have a relationship that doesn't have the kind of nonsense most gals have. To me she's a better communicator and is mature enough. Its all in the character. So, many people still stress alot in character. However good character you may claim you have, it has to be the kind of good that he likes. Perhaps you are just showing frustrations that the man on your frequency still hasn't appear. I can only say, believe in true love, it exist. Just that its not easy to find it, and thats what makes it precious. Good luck and God bless....
2007-04-01 05:28:57 · answer #6 · answered by henry_fy7d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because our culture still harbors the antiquated belief that men are valued for their earnings and women are valued for their appearance. I agree it's not fair, and the best way to overcome this is to be a strong, independent woman who is happy with herself.
2007-04-01 05:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a cultural judgement and that will take a very long time to change. There are men out there who will love you for who you are but you first have to love yourself. If you are not happy what are you going to do to change that.
2007-04-01 05:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Rambokitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men judge larger women but also there are plenty of women not all who comment on a large guy also so be patient you will find a guy who likes you for what you are
2007-04-01 05:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by james s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because men are very Visual creatures, and weight on some women is not good visually... some men, however Love big gals
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