4 months ago I cut all ties with my father for many reasons. When I run into people that know both of us, I find out from them that he speaking badly of me. I have been biting my tongue from saying anything bad back to these people either about him or about them repeating it or about them even having the nerve to ask me about personal business. What should I do? Should I just ignore it, or should I send my father yet another letter telling him to stop spreading lies and speaking badly of me? HELP! I feel like I am going to go insane!
2007-04-01
04:23:51
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You need to understand one thing and people will think I am crazy when I say this, my dad was ordained as a minister, so people think he is right in everything. He hides his smoking, cursing, and dirty jokes from people in the community. So it makes it easier to believe him since everyone seems to think he does no wrong. He is on his 3rd marriage to a real psycho who had him arrested about a year and a half ago. They argue all of the time. Like I said I wrote him off for several reasons, I have been married for over 2 years and we have a 1 year old. I don't feel my son needs that type of environment in his life, so that is the MAIN reason I cut ties but I don't know what to do about people saying things to me in front of my son, he is getting older and will start to wonder things and question me. I don't feel my son needs to know what has happened with that part of my family. That is the main reason I need a little help in what to do.
2007-04-01
04:39:05 ·
update #1
to the last person that gave an answer, i do understand that truth has 3 parts, his side, her side, and the right side. First of all, I know that I am only human and I will admit that there have been times in my life that I have said and done things to disappoint everyone, but that does not give anyone the right to speak badly about someone. I was seeking information as to how do I deal with my father speaking badly about me. I feel the best thing to do is just smile in someone's face that is repeating is gossip and not say anything when in reality I really want to stand up and start screaming. I was seeking advice as to should I keep my mouth shut or should I tell these people nicely to mind their own business
2007-04-01
06:15:16 ·
update #2