my 3 yr. old son always screams and yells when he doesnt get his way or even when you tell him to hang on or he will just start crying and wont stop he recently turned three. all he has done since his b day is cry or scream and then he tries to hit u. i put him in timeout i smack his hand when he tries to hit me or another family member.(he got the hitting from his 5 yr old sister.) i have even put him in bed. i dont know how much more i can handle i try but nothing works can anyone help me....
2007-04-01 04:20:54 · 7 answers · asked by kaitidowdell 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Wow, you sound like you have your hands full. The most important thing to remember is to be consistent, even if it looks like nothing is working. He is old enough to understand the rules at age 3. Have you ever watched Supernanny? It is a great show with lots of positive reinforcement tips. The basis for all her strategies is to continue to persevere even when it looks hopeless. At some point the child will realize the parent has won and he will give in.
I spatted my kids when they acted up. I know there are alot of people out there who dont agree with spanking but I dont see anything wrong with a little swat to get their attention. And we used spankings for defiant disobedience.
Even if you think he doesnt understand that hitting is wrong, keep explaining it to him. He will eventually get it. Stay calm yourself and dont let him see your exasperation. If your older child is hitting too, you might use these same techniques with her, only start taking away some of her privileges. Maybe you can enlist her to help with your little boy. I always explained to my son (who was older by 2 years) that part of his responsibility as an older brother was to be an example to our younger daughter. This taught him to be more responsible and it also gave him a chance to be more mature.
Just hang in there and stay the course. If you do, the screaming and crying will eventually stop. You will be rewarded for your diligence. It paid off with our daughter.
Good luck.
2007-04-01 04:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by texas_mom39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweety the only thing that is going to help is you continuing to do what you are doing and time. Don't give up he is a normal child who probably just hit the terrible twos late.
It gets better and with consistency in the way you are already correcting him he will stop.
The hitting is a hard one, how do you teach a child not to hit if you are spanking him that's hitting, makes no sense to me so that would leave again being consistant with the time outs etc. I had a hitter and I lived through it and she no longer hits it took a little time but the same methods you are using I used and eventually about 3 months it was over and a new phase of life began.
2007-04-01 11:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may or may not apply but I have 3 kiddos - my daughter is 3 now and we just had her evaluated by a Pediatric Developmental Neurologist... turns out she has some developmental issues - dyspraxia and such but she is also very high maintanance, needs things immediately, gets frustrated easily and screams alot....ALOT. I try to give her extra hugs and one on one time. That helps some but I think it is just her temperment to be needy and intense. The thing that helps me the most is to PRAY...I end up doing quite a bit of it. You just have to find a way to put aside your frustration and issues and know your child NEEDS you and your patience. So my advice is to get a good doctor and pray...alot. Good luck =o)
2007-04-02 00:09:51 · answer #3 · answered by spiritdreamer78 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hummm, Stretch out your arm, see what is at the end of it? Use it, works wonders. Don't use it hard enough to send the kid sailing into the next room, but enough to turn the bottom pink, with pain that goes ouch. The problem with most parents today they are afraid to punish the kids, when it's needed. That's why we have so many kids going to ADULT Courts. Murderer at 7, 8, 9 yrs old.Take responsibilty now before it is to late.
2007-04-01 11:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, stop smacking him.
You say he learned to hit from his sister.. maybe he learned it from you.
Kids do what they see.
Kids say what they hear.
Secondly, that's just how some kids are. More 'high need'.
I'm not suggesting this with your son but my daughter is autistic and becomes violent at times.
If you feels it's a serious problem, talk to your pediatrician about behavior issues. It could be something more.
You also say your daughter is out of control... I think this is an issue bigger than discipline. Hitting your kids like so many suggest just teaches your kids to hit.
At some point you have to wonder WHY what you are doing isn't working. At some point you have to look at yourself and your husband.
2007-04-01 11:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by Vanora S 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You can pick up some tricks on how to dominate and subjugate (control) 3-year-olds from watching "The Dog Whisperer" I'm serious, we're just mammals (albeit highly evolved mammals) and we respond to certain techniques and learn our behavior from it. You have to establish dominance over your son if you want him to be able to learn from you. No violence required, only controlled and emotionless actions designed to establish dominance.
2007-04-01 11:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by eggman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is the 2nd time u asked this question. its not the kids its you
2007-04-01 11:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by uridiot 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋