When a man tells a woman to call him does this mean he is not really interested or he is interested but wants to see how much the woman is interested in him? This dating in the 2000's is confusing. Thanks you guys for the feedback!!!
2007-04-01 03:42:12 · 27 answers · asked by aisha r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he's probably a little unsure of himself so he's not sure weather or not you are truly interested OR .... he's way too casual or over confidant about his interest in you . Meaning that if you call , you call , if not , so what , maybe someone else will. You need to consider his personality to figure this one out. If he's over confidant , stay away from him , he'll only hurt you in the end. Take care & good luck : )
2007-04-01 04:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, according to my past experience with these things, when a guy tells the woman to call, he is either wanting to see if she's interested OR (more likely) he's not interested enough in her and telling her that she needs to be the one to call is the easiest way to get rid of her. I mean girls do it all the time...you never done it? Like you weren't really interested in a guy but you didn't want to be rude so you just gave him your number and when he called you never picked up?
Guys do the same thing...so the only way to find out if he is interested or not, is by calling him. Just call him, if he doesn't pick up, leave him a message saying that" Hi, it's me (your name). We met the other night in blah, blah, blah. I was just calling to see if you are interested in getting together sometime and if you are just give me a call back when you get a chance. My number is...Thanks!"
You should include all the above-mentioned details so you know in case he doesn't call back it wasn't because he 1) couldn't remember who it was and 2) didn't have your number.
So, if he doesn't call back within two days you don't have to wonder what happened and you can just know he's not interested enough to be serious about you and you can just move on to the next one. (In case he calls back in like a week, he's not serious and will play you, so unless he has a good excuse-like he was out of the country-you should not talk to him...it's complicated, I know)
Hope this helps...
2007-04-01 03:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should it not be okay for a guy to let a woman know he'd like her to call? Guys have been the ones putting themselves out there for rejection for a very long time...this way, instead of having to deal with "no thanks" if she has his number, and he lets her know he'd like to hear from her, then she either calls or doesn't. No call would be = to a rejection, but a bit softer one then being told to your face that there's no interest.
I prefer a guy call me, but I also know a lot of guys realize some women don't like to give out their # so if he gives her his, she can call him (from anywhere) and then share her # if she feels so inclined.
Women can ask men out nowdays and that's perfectly acceptable...so is a guy telling a woman he'd like her to call, just as women have long given guys their # and asked them to call.
If there were no interest, why share one's # or ask someone to call? That doesn't make sense, does it?
2007-04-01 03:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really reading too much in a simple request. A man may be friendly and is extending conversation. It does not mean that he wants to shag you rotten. I have lots of female friends & ex-girlfriends that call me. If I was doing all of them It would be an amazing feat.
2007-04-01 03:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Radman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aisha Jee!
Courtesy demands this thing.
Ladies are always respected. Men request keeping in view this thing, if a woman is interested she would call otherwise it means no.
2007-04-01 03:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Atif Mirza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants to know if you're actually interested in him, if he said he would call you and you said okay, he might have doubts and think you just don't want to hurt his feelings. So, if you're interested, give him a call, I'm sure he wants you to.
2007-04-01 03:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not really that interested if he tells you to call him. If he asks you for your number then you have the right guy.
I read this book I found it very insightful with what guys say.
2007-04-01 03:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been through both situations. one instance in when a man says to call actually is in the hopes that you like him and will show it in that way. the other is he is just saying that to finish a relationship/dating thing/friendship in a way he considers fair and nice. that way if you call back, he won't feel bad for not picking up
2007-04-01 05:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by YinxSphinxmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are a confusing bunch to try to comprehend. some men do it for kicks and then brag to their mates, some may not have the confidence to call first and really await youre call. the best thing you can do is call him and say your name if he cant recall who you are you know hes not genuine. i asked my husband about this and he said that men dont like to put in the effort and time to chase women its the same as the "i'll call you " line. its their way of saying thanks ive got what i needed now irs time to move on. my husband also told me of the time he tried to call a girlfriend but every time he dialed her number he got butterflies in his stomach and hung up. he gave up after 5 times. maybey this guy youre talking about dosent hold the confidence to call you first and hes waiting for you to call as he wont have made first contact. all men arent users and there are genuine men out there..... good luck......
2007-04-01 04:22:05 · answer #9 · answered by ANGEL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants her to call him and talk,. If he was not interested, he would not ask this.
2007-04-01 03:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋