In November my son's father told me he was going to have the teacher babysit our son while he went to work early. I said no problem, i'll be there to pick him up @ my usual time, does the teacher know where u live. He said no, put I'm gonna give her directions. I go pick my son up, talk to the teacher for an hour, ask her if she knew about the pet snakes in the house. She said she didn't and never would have stayed there by herself if she did. Our son said the teacher was daddy's girlfriend over and over so I asked him about it and he said no. Two days later he told me they were in fact dating. I wasn't mad that they were dating......I was mad that I was deceived by BOTH OF THEM! So I got over it, and the other day he told me he is marrying her on 4/7/07 (6 months into the relationship). They originally planned on getting married in April of next year, but sped it up a year b/c her Visa expires soon (she's from Russia). Our son is the ring bearer....NO family is invited. Help
2007-04-01 02:56:11 · 3 answers · asked by carpediem3000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From what you have indicated above, it sounds like your son's Dad was the only one that tried to deceive you in any way, and likely did so as it may have been early in the their relationship, didn't feel where it had a bearing on the care she provided your mutual son, or any of your business. If he has lied to you about numerous things in the past, this was just a lie on top of many other and that is why you are so upset, be thankful you are no longer in a relationship with him.
Not sure what your issue is with the two of the deciding to get married after 6 months into the relationship; that is their personal business.
As for wanting to have your son being a ring bearer it is very logical to include him in their wedding as this woman is now going to be his step-mother.
Not sure what you mean by "no family" is invited, unless you are upset that you were not invited; again, the vows being taken are between your ex and his spouse to be and it is up to them as to whom they chose to invite to their wedding and it would likely be very uncomfortable to have you there.
If your son is young and you don't feel comfortable letting him go as you are worried that they will be too busy to watch him properly, which is a justifiable concern, you could make arrangement with a trusted member in his family or mutual friend agree to watch your son.
2007-04-01 03:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help with what. They are both mature adults. There is very little you can do but move on with your life, and wish them luck. That sucks that they lied to you. However, be grateful she has the lying wonder and not you. Seems as though they are made for one another. God bless****
2007-04-01 03:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry what is the problem??? ok they were reluctant to say anything to begin with --- if your son and the lady get on well and your EX cares for her (and she cares for him) --- what is wrong??????
i cant see any conflicts or ethical dilemmas
2007-04-01 03:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋