Ok My family member can't decide if she could go to church or the wedding rehersal /dinner!
She attends church every night of the week and I think she thinks it wrong to chose an wedding over church service, but her boyfriend and little girl are in the wedding, We thinks she wants us to change the rehersal but there are other people involed not just her. So how can we explain to her, the important of the rehersal? Its on friday night and the wedding is the following saturday. Oh and she is not married and is living with her boyfirend , and never had an wedding of her own.
2007-04-01 00:37:13 · 12 answers · asked by tamylee2001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She might be using this as an excuse not to go but she could also be earnestly that religious. You would know more than I but if it is because of one of these two things then as her friend you should understand. Now, she could just be being stupid in which case you might be able to convince her to go by saying that she can go to an earlier mass and that the wedding would count for a mass. Also, remind her that God wants people to get married and this is a special occasion so God would understand and be disturbed if she was just using HIM as an excuse not to go.
2007-04-01 00:42:45 · answer #1 · answered by Don Quesadia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she actually IN the wedding? It doesnt sound like she is, just her BF and Daughter are. She doesnt need to be there, the BF and D do, so let them come and her go to Church. Dont change your rehearsal, but also dont make a big deal of her going to church rather than your dinner especially if she has no involvement in the wedding other than being a date of a groomsman and mother of the flower girl. (Is she by any chance punishing you in a passive aggressive way for not being in your wedding?)
2007-04-01 01:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do I agree with her putting you in this situation? No. But, in reality, it's her choice. You can't force her to be there. Stress the importance of the rehearsal to her and then let her make her own decision. Can't her boyfriend come to the rehearsal without her? I'm sure she'll take her daughter wherever she goes, but her boyfriend is old enough to make his own decisions about the rehearsal. Don't change the rehearsal just for her--it's your wedding, your rehearsal and there are far too many people involved. Also, I wouldn't stress that they aren't at the rehearsal. Jews don't do rehearsals, and our weddings come out just fine! They'll figure out what they need to do on the day of if they don't go to the rehearsal!
2007-04-01 02:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she believes it is a sin to miss church what does she say about living together with a child out of wedlock. anyway sorry had to ask. if she is not in the wedding just have her boyfriend and child show up for the rehearsal and she can come to the dinner after church if she is done early enough. if she is hollering that her boyfriend and little girl have to go to church to just have them meet her at church after the rehearsal (yes they can go in late) and then come to dinner. I don't really get her from here. If she is not involved in the wedding then she should not expect you to change everything for her. congrats and good luck
2007-04-01 07:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by fuzzyfellonmt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding, so do it your way!!! Let your family member know that if she'd like to be in the wedding party, there are some events that are mandatory for her to be present for and if she is unable to attend the events, you will have to find another person who will be able to. It's your big day, don't let ANYONE ruin it for you! Tell her that attending church services everyday isn't going to make a marriage proposal or her own wedding happen any sooner than it's meant to happen!!!! GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!
2007-04-01 01:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ermm... give her some advice and try to persuade her to attend the rehersal.... tell her the importance of the rehersal and if she did attend she did the god words to other : let everyone have to fair and equal life....nice treatment to others is a will from me to u! so tell her to attend the rehersal and tell her god will forgive her for not being at the church as she is committing a crime but helping others...
2007-04-01 00:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by yang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is only a wedding rehersal , the ol girl most likely wont be to heavily involved in the rehersal anyway , so let her go to church.
2007-04-01 00:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by DSV 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This should be a non issue since she is NOT in the wedding and really does not need to be at the rehearsal dinner.
2007-04-01 12:08:34 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's of course up to her. She's not in the wedding party, right, so her bf can look after their daughter.
2007-04-01 00:53:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well your family member feels that the rehearsal is no big thing, so let it be that is if you want her in the party. there are much bigger things that you have on your mind then that so stop thinking about it im sure things will go great
2007-04-01 01:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by brown eyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋