I went out last night and have been going out for a while now and again but i just go quiet and dont speak to anyone, i feel so lonely and i feel everyone is better at socialising than me, they seem to know how to be confident and i just sit there feel really down and watch everyone else, i feel like they are living and i am just sitting there and observing everyone else, like i dont belong and out of it, like i dont fit in with everyone else, i do try, but i just get upset and want to leave, what can i do? People tell me i am attractive but i just feel so ugly and alone, what can anybody suggest to me, i am so shy it ruins my chances of meeting new friends or anything like that!!
2007-03-31 23:44:57 · 9 answers · asked by robertapdixon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a personal problem that can only be solved by you. You know the problem, fix it!!
2007-03-31 23:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let tell you that you have no problem, something inside your missing like your low on iron -- drink orange juice. Also I don't know your age or the are you live.
Most people this actually funny, the change is overwhelming, don't think into it, go roller blading, ski diving, give to an elderly person, talk highly of "Fire Dog Fire Protection" that is me and being a girl it is hard, it is a jungle out there.
Take a self defence class, take a step in faith and believe in the Lord Jesus, and go upon your day.
More than likely being certain type is not destiny. Get a puppy.
2007-04-01 06:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Firedogfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an introvert. Nothing is wrong with you, you just prefer to be in smaller groups, more personal interactions with people. Accept this and know it is ok to just sit and observe others. Try picking one person and talking to them one on one, then move on to the next person when you start looking for something to talk about. This is a common problem and you can find a way to deal with it.
2007-04-01 06:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by I'm Not Lost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try just one night to do an experiement with yourself.. pretend you are making a movie. and your character is a bold outspoken laughing machine.. force yourself to walk up to total strangers and say the first thing that comes out of your mouth.. (most men do anyways) and who cares what the others think.. (in your mind its all for the movie,, get it) and move around the room doing this with everyone you come in contact with.. Say hello, hi, how ya doing to everyone.. offer your hand to shake... Just make a total *** our of yourself for "again" the movies sake.. then see how others response will be... sometimes over doing it in practice will lead to a more calmer version in the long run.. Who cares if folks laugh. maybe they are laughing with you, not at you..
2007-04-01 06:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by Mintee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get on to chat rooms and talk to people there, build up some confidence. other than that it might be you don't like were you are rather than lack of confidence. I used to go out in a place I didn't like and I was quite but as soon as we went out of town it was great.
2007-04-01 06:48:04 · answer #5 · answered by rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear Friend......Just want to tell you one small logic...
Always think tomorrow no one exist in this world, so what we have to do today....ofcourse we will make all the fun and bring happiness all that we can.... Have you Got it...So make your day delightful everyday just by having this in your mind.... Be cool my friend..... beauty doesnt come out of your appearance, its from your heart, how do you make others happy and feel them to remember you forever.
2007-04-01 08:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jith A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to take some assertive training courses..and get some self confidence>>>>nobdoy is going to do this for you.
2007-04-01 06:48:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus and therapy.If we can fix our own problems we would not need Jesus and when its time for you to die you will face God anyway
2007-04-01 06:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you fu**in gay, find a girl and you will be happy.
2007-04-01 06:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by where i am... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋