I saw his myspace account in the history of our computer and it said browse. I clicked cuz I'm like why is he browsing myspace? When I did it was logged in. I saw he had been browsing girls and adding attractive ones. His sent messages were empty. So I confronted him and he said he has always done this for no reason. That he doesn't talk to anyone and just does it without thinking. Its something he's always done and isn't gonna stop doing it. He has never given me any reason not to trust him in the 9 months I've known him and treats me SO good. Like a princess. He deals with my personal problems and is more than there for me. I just don't understand why he would be doing this "for no reason" especially when he asks me to marry him everyday. He knows I'm in love with him too I just want to say 'yes' when we can actually afford to get married.
2007-03-31 21:39:17 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are not young.
I am 25 and he is 43.
2007-03-31 21:54:44 · update #1
I have a g/f that ive been with over 2 years and I browse every now and then. It doesn't mean you don't love that person or your looking for someone else...I think its just a curiosity of the male brain. If he was looking for someone else or whatnot I think you would notice a change in his attitude/behavior towards you. You say he treats you very good and loves you. If the man has never done you wrong and treats you right...I think you need not worry...its just that little jelousy bug we all have in us. Hopefully its just a phase...you two will probably make big plans down the road and he will be much more occupied with that and you'll both completly forget about this issue. Hope this helped and goodluck....remember that honesty and openess are the key to a relationship...its okay to express how you feel about it as long as you don't press this on him.
2007-03-31 21:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jeffdog9000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I am wrong so don't take it to heart, but seems to me that you are involved wit a very emotionally and relationship wise immature man. He is 43 for God's sake. Are the girls really young? I would be SO creeped out if my boyfriend of that age did something like that! No sent messages is also a problem. Maybe he is deleting them in case you happen to stumble on his account. He might be a really cunning deceiver and having you as a back-up and taking you for granted while he prowls. OR you should leave it alone and continue living with him while giving him his private space. If I were you, I would examine a bit his "princess" kind of treatment and see if there are any holes there. And be HONEST to yourself while doing that! I had a guy online telling me he treated his ex as a princess, well, I went and paid for his background check and guess what?? He was an alcoholic and she filed a domestic charge against his *** last year. Please, watch out! People that are mentally disturbed can put up the greatest mask ever and be fooling you all the time. Good luck, really!
2007-03-31 22:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by stargazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if he hasn't cheated yet he will. First off he's way to old for you. Second, that is the only reason men look at other women on myspace. I am engaged, my fiance and I both have a myspace. We also both have access to each other's myspace. We both check each other's myspace on a regular basis. Not because we don't trust each other, but because there are family and friends on each that we both talk to. If someone emails her and she's busy I will let her know and sometimes she will ask me to message them back for her. I'm a man, and I will tell you that most men are assholes. I was raised to be respectful of the person I love. Most men feel it is their right to look at other women, flirt and cheat. I however do not. I won't even look at another woman because I feel it is disrespectful to my fiance. Hope that helps, and if he is looking at other women, it's his loss, and you should be glad to be rid of him.
2007-03-31 22:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by graxx69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boys.every time we're suspicious of them, we always get a dead end.your boyfriend is another typical boy who is flirtatious and LOVES girls.i thing the first thing you need to do is RELAX.don't panic at his actions. maybe he's alone and wanted to talk to another girl because his angel is busy and not by his side at the time he needed her.spend a lot of time with him as long as you can.then he knows ur the only girl he wants .you have the rights.before you know the real reason he adds attractive girls to his ms,don/t accept his hand in marriage.i know you trust him but u don/t know if maybe u will have a broken heart.if all of a sudden u found ur boyfriend did his actions for a bad reason, then dump him.u'll feel good about it, i'm sure.u can do it.u can still find other loyal guys out there.
2007-03-31 21:59:08 · answer #4 · answered by PuRpLE LeMonnE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to see who is there, and he likes looking at pretty girls. However, I can tell from what you said that you are both WAY too young to be thinking about marriage. Really. Sorry to disappoint you. If you still think about marriage, go to a minister and have a long talk and get counseling before you do it. Otherwise, you're suspicious of him and he's looking at girls and this isn't going to turn out well until you are older and know what you want.
2007-03-31 21:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will or has already cheated on you. If you enjoy mental pain and not being a priority to someone, then you are in the right place. Dream of a relationship where you are #1 and he puts himself before you in everything. They are few and far between but I would take that over a $million dollars.
2007-03-31 21:44:32 · answer #6 · answered by rchwght 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"no reason" is not always a good excuse, but maybe he is just looking for a friend or family member and the girls on myspace just happened to be there..
2007-03-31 21:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being so insecure and dont think so hard into it. so he likes to look at attractive women who cares doesnt every guy. you just said he treats you well and takes care of you. its myspace for crying out loud get over it.
2007-03-31 21:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by mel_sophia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not browsing for no reason. either he's looking around, or not. if he is, then he might not be who you thought he was. my husband would never do that, since he's committed to me only, and i'd never do that to him. be careful if you think you'd marry him. you've only been dating for 9 mths. that's too short a time to marry someone. think about it.
2007-03-31 21:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's given you no reason not to trust him, why would go into his history and pursue it like that? If he's trustworthy then it's not an issue.
2007-03-31 21:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jack S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋