When he gets drunk he gets aggressive. He always lies about htings that I find out about later on and he is constantly telling me how much its hima nd I and we are going to conquer the world. I talked to his ex girlfriend and she says it was the same with her....Is it healthy for me to want to stay with him? Even if he has aggressive outbursts when he drinks? I love him a lot I really do. And when we're not fighting and getting a long he treats me like a queen. Is this healthy for me?
2007-03-31 21:02:43 · 6 answers · asked by Kris 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The ex girlfriend has already warned you so you better watch it. You've seen first hand about his lying and delusions of grandeur so how can you trust anything about him? The only reason he treats you good is because he feels guilty and is trying to rectify his drunken abnormal behavior. So don't fall for this as it's just a matter of time before you become the victim of some real and very destructive abuse. Love is blind and in your case you are in for a bad awakening. You think you are being treated like a queen when you two aren't fighting? How often is that and how long does it last? Just wait until you are dethroned and get knocked off your perch. He has a real problem with alcohol and he needs to seek treatment pronto! The only thing healthy for you at this point is for you to get as far away from him as you possibly can. If you don't you are going to have a problem; one that will prove detrimental resulting in a very unhealthy outcome.
2007-03-31 21:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE! You don't love him, you love the idea of him, the possibility of him. The real him is the drunk who lies and is aggressive. It's not healthy to want to stay. Oh, and a lot of abusers treat the woman "like a queen" at first, and then start in with hitting later on. Check out some domestic abuse websites and you'll see that all over. Get OUT! NOW!
2007-04-01 04:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not healthy for you. He drinks too much and he has grandiose ideas about you and him, the same ones he has had about other women. He has angry outbursts when he is drunk, if he isnt hitting you now, he probably soon will be. He should treat you like a queen all the time.... please leave him now.
2007-04-01 04:10:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lauren J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nobody should tolerate any kind of verbal abuse from his partner. If you bear with this, it will be getting worse. And, naturally, drinking does not improve any relationship either.
2007-04-01 04:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by allengenator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not !
Get free of it now, because it only gets harder to leave and he will get rougher .
If he cared for you he would quit drinking ,but he puts that be for you . He has the big "L" on his forehead .
2007-04-01 04:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer
2007-04-01 04:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by deeman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋