I am 14 and sometimes i find myself falling back in love with my ex-boyfriend. i set right by him in class. i can't get away from him.. i tryed with others but i still think of him(my ex).. what should i do you get him off my mind... PLZ HELP????
2007-03-31 19:49:11 · 15 answers · asked by Missy14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you like him and you are positive go for it. dont find yourself losing a guy you might be in love with. aha and thanks for the answer on mine
2007-03-31 20:29:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the exact same place, girl. I just brokeup with my first boyfriend last week because that he "wasn't a good boyfriend, and that he wasn't ready for an adult relationship". Part of what's helping me heal, is that I believe him.. he sucked at being a boyfriend, but I miss him. I miss him a LOT. I've liked the guy forever, it's wierd not having him as my boyfriend anymore, and I miss him. I was actually going to try and kiss him next time I saw him. He totally took me by suprise.
I found that flirting with other guys while he's around is fun, it gets my mind off him. I'm not sure if it'll work for you, but you can try.
Listen to songs like "Girlfriend" by Avril Lavigne, and "Fergalicious" by Fergie, and "L.O.V.E." by Aslee Simpson. They'll help you realize how much fun being a girl is. And think about all the BAD, and i mean BAD things he's done. Such as flirting with other girls, ignoring you etc, it will help you to say "he wasn't a good boyfriend. I can live without him." (after doing that, i realized that my ex-boyfriend truly sucked).
You and I don't need boys! We're both 14. It's fun to flirt around, but, even though I was in it deep with my boyfriend (now my ex), I couldn't really say the word "love". Not that there was something wrong, only that i knew that I was not in love with him yet. You're not "in love" either. Sorry, but I agree with that other guy, it's all just lust and curiousity and somebody to keep you befriend, but have to freedom to kiss.
All of the above is what I've been doing since my breakup last week, and I'm beginning to feel better and better every day. At night i begin to miss him, but it seems that the only thing i miss is squeezing him and the possibility of kissing him. He and I are still really good friends. It's not liked we're never going to talk again or anything.
I think avoiding him, like the others have said, isn'tvery good. It's better to face the pain and heal it better than to run from it. The reason why you're sad is because you've been runnign away from him and not actually patching up the relationship, even if you are just friends.
My answer's gettin' too long, so I'll shup up now.
2007-04-01 03:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Cute T ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 14. This is not the last guy you will ever love. TRUST ME! If you still like him, talk to him. You didn't really say why you are ex's. But your 14, so it could have been any number of things b/c at 14 you change your mind each day. Anyway, gat a hobby, more friends, take up sports, ready, get better grades in school...anything to move on b/c you will benefit more from an education than you will a man. Besides, you are way too young to be worrying about a guy.
2007-04-01 03:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by famurattla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is there a way you can move a way from him in your class. Try to keep your mind occupied on other things and do some sports too. Also Being 14 your still young and you have plenty of time to find the love of your life. Also, give it time everything takes time. Be patient.
2007-04-01 02:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by want_to_marry_overseas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, i was in the same spot. In all reality, the hardest thing you will ever do if forget your ex. It gets eiser everytime, but it's still hard. The best thing you can do is space yourself from him. I don't really know what to do beyond that to be really honest. But you just need to follow your heart, and do what your heart tells you. Some times, it might be better to get back together. And then, you just need to space away from eachother. Let it go and just breath.
2007-04-01 03:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont even know what love is! ur too young to say you still love him. its all lust and the only reason you think about him is ither he's just that hot or you dont want to be alone. think of the reason you broke up in the first place. It was prob some stupid reason like he flirts to much or ignores you at times. let the poor kid alone. and if he starts dating other ppl dont screw with him. let him be, just cause its not you doesnt mean you have to mess with his life. well for the class room thing just avoid him. if he talks to you then talk but dont strike a convo with him. If he still likes you then he will talk to you. but dont force him too or you will never get him back. he will just think ur annoying! good luck
2007-04-01 02:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by quikblue11 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you love someone you can't get them off your mind. A quick fix is to start dating someone else to take him off your mind, but in the long run you will still only be hurting yourself. If your not getting back together the only thing I can tell you is time is the only thing that will make things better.
2007-04-01 02:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by Marla C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things run their course and you'll be fine. You just haven't seen the "next boyfriend" yet.......if you really want to get over this guy...then....don't let your mind think about him...it's that simple....and also, give some thought to asking your teacher for a new seat.
2007-04-01 03:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing right now. If you two were meant to be it will all work out in the end.
2007-04-01 02:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by maysimay2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u still in love with him. ask him if he feels the same too. if he is not. y not let go and find somebody who will love u as much as you love him. you're still young and lot of things may come ur way.
2007-04-01 02:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by iris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he single..........tell him to take it slow if he is....if he's not single, adjust your life so he's just a friend now and that you can explore other guys now but you'll always know there is a future for you and him down the road someday maybe if there is another opportunity that you and him are single, but chances of that are very slim, just be happy that you have had the opportunity to date him, and be glad you have the opportunity to date other guys in the future
2007-04-01 02:52:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋