after a guy gets sex from a girl that been holding out - do he lose all in interest in her? how she can stop that from happening and why does it happen? guys shouldn't do girls bad like this, it's not right....
2007-03-31 19:38:17 · 22 answers · asked by mariah2480 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its hard to know what a guy really wants from you... you could hold out for a long time and he could tell you all the right stuff but this still can happen.... Just keep your morals and dont jump straight into bed with no-one, it will help weed out a few of the dirtbags.
Dont know why they do this - kinda like all the fun is in the chase, they are so different from us girls - we like to have them stick around and improve the relationship.
Best thing to do is after you have sex with a guy tell him you were heaps nervous and that you didnt perform your best - perhaps give him more to look forward to next time - always make the sex interesting - try different ways of doing things and always use lingerie - it so works.
Good luck with them dirtbags, I really have no hope myself I have found this same thing is happening to me and Im much much older than you... men dont change
I hope you find a nice guy that really wants a relationship and to feel love for the wonderful stuff it is... remember love grows, tell them that - if you think it wont turn them off. Cheers
2007-03-31 19:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by gudsport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy loses interest in a girl after having sex, the attraction was probably purely physical and the chemistry wasn't there for a long term relationship.
Guys tend to focus on a girls physical attributes and after having sex for the first time, may then start to focus on personality more. Often previously unrevealed aspects of a girl's personality are revealed in bed and the guy may not like what he sees.
For guys, it's the "conquest" or pursuit that brings the big thrill. After he has achieved that, he's likely to move on to the next conquest. For us, "getting" is usually more fun than "having."
As guys mature, security and stability become more important. To keep from getting blown off after having sex with a guy for the first time, make sure he respects you and really loves you for who you are, not just how hot you are. The relationship should have a strong foundation, otherwise sex can wreck it.
Also make sure you both want the same thing in terms of how fast the relationship will get serious. Don't expect any relationship to get too serious until you're in your late twenties.
I hope this helps.
2007-04-01 02:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jimbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, it depends on the guy, and the girl as well. There are some who just want to "get into a girl's pants". Usually, these types will be forceful about having sex, even if the girl tells him no. Others, sex would be an added bonus.
As for keeping it from happening... You can't. If a guy is so shallow that he leaves after sleeping with you, I can tell you that it isn't worth it. It's why I wait a long time in a relationship before sex becomes an issue. And if my partner doesn't like it, then it is too bad for them... One must never compromise to that, and if they care, they can understand and wait.
Naturally most of this is personal opinion.
2007-04-01 02:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Ryoma M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously not over the age of 25 or else you wouldn't be asking that question. Why do guys lose interest? Why is the sky blue? There is probably a very good explanation but the truth is this, and it's harsh; guys are interested in sex and if you put out than they have achieved their goal. What's to make them stay? The only way you can be sure a guy is not just after your goodies is to give any new relationship a lot of time. I don't mean one or two weeks. Real relationships and the motives behind them take MONTHS. Stop falling for the lines and start looking between them. The good news is that you are now very popular in the boy's bathroom.
2007-04-01 02:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't give him any unless he is worthy. Sounds like he isn't. Guys always want what they can't have. Once they have it, they generally don't want it. So, keep it till you're ready and feel that it's right, not when he says so.
I am the type of person that doesn't wait. Well, that's not tru entirely. If I am feelin a guy and I want to, I do. but sometimes, I have wished that I made the person wait longer b/c a person's character can be revealed after such an intimate encounter. If he is a jerk after, he is usually been a jerk the whole time but we (women) didn't heed the warnings b/c we didn't want him to be anything other than Mr. Right.
And, yes there are some pigs out there that will say anything to get into your pants and leave right after. So, wait as long as possible and be sure that he isn't a pig.
2007-04-01 02:46:26 · answer #5 · answered by famurattla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right guys shouldn't treat girls like that. but they do. The only thing we can do is protect ourselves. Yes I think they lose interest because it becomes a game to them. A challange. Once they get what they want the game is over. The only advise I have is dont give it up unless you know he is interested in YOU and not just having sex with you. They can be very convincing though so be careful. there are good guys out there that arent just interested in just one thing. but they are hard to find. Dont give up hope. The right one will wait a long time if he is in it for the right reasons. good luck
2007-04-01 02:48:02 · answer #6 · answered by nina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might lose interest if the sex wasn't good...If you are holding out (for whatever reason), then the expectations are tremendous..The longer you wait, the higher the expectations...If you don't live up to the expectations, then there is a BIG let down for the man..The only remedy is to have Great Sex when the time comes..
2007-04-01 02:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do and some dont! You just have to get to know the guy before you jump into it and look for warning signs of him tryin to get you to change your mind and beliefs about it, which sometimes is hard to tell cuz some guys are really good and make it sound innocent! But follow your heart, I believe everyone has an intuition and can just tell if something isnt right!
2007-04-01 02:45:45 · answer #8 · answered by js95116 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! (PS-take it from me, DON'T DO IT!! Dumbest thing you can do, especially if you really like the guy.)
Sexual tension is the #1 reason that relationship experts say causes the feeling of "love" which is really just infatuation based on sexual tension. Once that tension is broken, most guys (and girls too) realize that the "love" wasn't really there to begin with, or there wasn't enough "love" existing long enough to create "lasting love". "Lasting love" is necessary to establish a long-standing relationship, and you won't be able to form that long standing connection if that sexual tension is burst too early.
Do the right thing, the smart thing: Save it. Most guys will say anything to get it in the first place, and most of them don't deserve it at all. Good luck!
2007-04-01 02:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by lissa2882 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all that guy wanted was sex then yes he will lose interest because really he wasn't interested in you but getting into you, if you know what I mean.
2007-04-01 02:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by NDN 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋