There's this girl whom I've been friends with for years... and I think she's liked me for a while now; but I've always remained neutral towards her because I didn't really like her that much, and I already have a girlfriend in a long-distance relationship.
Lately though, I've felt more and more attracted to her, and today I just made out with her for the first time.
She knows all about my girlfriend, and she hinted today that I should break up with my current girlfriend before we take it any further.
I like my long-dist. g/f more than I like her, but I don't think that I can keep up that relationship anymore (too far).
Going out with my friend would be fun, and I really want to, and I'm really physically attracted to her...
But breaking up with my long-d g/f would be really messy (promised marriage etc.), and I'm not even sure I want to...
2007-03-31 18:55:58 · 7 answers · asked by DragoonZero 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
have you made any effort or plans to bring her to your place as well? or have kept the communication lines open & tried your best to keep in touch always? truth is, these arent enough so to speak. when in a relationship, we need more than talking to phone, IM, pictures..we need to be hug, to kiss, to cuddle, to be touch & to make love with. the physical presence is very important alright but have you thought all about this before leaving that there are a lot of things to sacrfice? and sacrificing these takes a lot of discipline & the will to do it. .... but isn't love between you & her not enough to sustain the emptiness? true, that finding someone for comfort is more tempting when you work away from loved ones but did it ever cross your mind that you left in the first place & vow to work hard so that you can be with each other forever in the future? and that being away is just temporary? think back all these plus the good all mem'ries you had. if it does'nt spark a thing anymore then you can start thinking of whom you really want to be with now.
dont live with false hope or promises of marriage when you are'nt sure of it now. she will understand if you say so but do not make her wait for nothing and miss her chance of finding someone better than you (you strayed, right?). confess how you truly feel. it will set you free & enjoy your new relationship rather than having them both but half happy & half miserable.
2007-03-31 19:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well . . . here are two things I think are vital to consider before pursuing a long-distance relationship:
1) One of you MUST move. The plans must be specific. Otherwise, this is an imaginary relationship.
2) You have to spend time together in person for a significant amount of time. If you met online, that probably isn't met.
If either of those is not satisfied, you are probably wasting time in the long-distance relationship. To tell you the truth, if your friend is a good person and you are attracted to her and she is attracted to you, I think you should date her instead of this woman you only know over that long distance. But if you have plans to get married to the other girl soon and you two are attracted to each other and love each other, and have concrete plans to move in, etc. then you should probably stay with together. Good luck!
2007-03-31 19:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps u dont really love your friend..yr g/f is too far away..and u have your mental and physical needs that r supposed to take a form.what happens if u realise that u arent really in love with yr friend when u start going out with her?it's your life..and your decisisons to make.U need to think about everything..u need to ask your heart.Lust can sometimes override love..but the regrets remain.However..if u think that love is over between u and yr g/f..be honest with her..tell her the truth and end it.No point in being dishonest..it would just hurt all of u.good luck
2007-03-31 19:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make up your mind what it is that you want. If you so love the long distance girlfriend, can't you go and live with her so that you both can be together? If it's not possible, break it up and let her know. The sooner the lesser the pain for her.
2007-03-31 19:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are even giving this a thought ...that should tell ya something. Obviously the gal you are promised too isnt the right one if you are debating here. Time to be honest with yourself and the one you are supposed to marry. Good Luck ...better to know now than later.
2007-03-31 18:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm able to comprehend taking good care of your friends, yet they want you to offer up being with somebody which you adore - WHY? through fact the different woman is nearer? To me it quite is mindless to interrupt up with somebody which you seem to needless to say love and care purely for somebody nearer. you have been collectively for 3 years already with distance between you, so your relationship is robust. you propose to be shifting nearer in the three hundred and sixty 5 days, so purely wait that one 3 hundred and sixty 5 days to be nearer and proceed your relationship along with her. i might hate to lose the guy i like through fact somebody else replaced into lived nearer to him. that's no longer a competent reason to enable your lady pal bypass. Relationships are outfitted on love, no longer the place you're placed, so I say follow love.
2016-10-02 00:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would break up with her because you are having a long-distance relationship with her.
2007-03-31 19:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Lizardanne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋