Was I wrong?

Question

I've been feeling a little depressed lately because my father and brother are leaving town and they are the only blood relatives I have here. I was having really low moment and wrote how I was feeling on my blog. My sister in law read it and showed my mother in law how called my husband and then every one was mad that I didn’t tell them how I was feeling and put it out there for the whole world to see. It was bad. I felt worse after writing it then before and that was not what I wanted I thought that I would feel better for getting it off my chest.
I must say this in my blog I wrote that I had no one to turn to and I was alone don’t know if that makes a difference but I thought I should be honest. So do you think that I was wrong in putting my feelings out like that or should I have kept it to my self.

Answer 1

I do understand how you feel, My daughter has 3 children and they are my only blood grand children, They live out of state and I do miss then,I have grand children from my step children and love them very much but there is a certain closeness to my own blood. I also understand what you may have said could have made your in laws feel they were less important, I would just explain to them you properly could have put your words better and you certainly did not mean to hurt anyone but the only blood relatives you have are moved away and you miss them let them know that you have much love for them too but to have the only blood family you had left and feel very close to are not near you any longer and that dose leave an empty place in your heart.
May God bless you for having a deep desire to care enough to not hurt the other members of your family.

Answer 2

Your "relatives" were wrong for making you feeling worse. Instead of accepting their faults and trying to improve and to make you feel better, they freaked out. No wonder you feel so alone with the "relatives" like that. They have no right to bring you down like that. It was very, very selfish and insensitive of them. If I were you, the next thing I would do is to post in the blog for the whole world to read how they turned into real a*s-holes now.
They are not emotionally supportive because they do not care about you and about your emotional well-being.
Hopefully, they will apologize (they should!) and you will work things out. But honestly speaking, you have no reason nor need to keep them in your life.

Answer 3

Blogs are supposed to be a place where you can get your feelings out, get feedback, and people have no idea who you are so you can just move on! Your family shouldn't be mad at you. They should've waited for you to tell them when you were ready. They should've reassured you that they were there for you if you wanted to talk about anything. You didn't do anything wrong except not confide in your family. Don't stress over it. It's in the open now so make the best with what you have.

Answer 4

I would think that your dad and brother should feel honored to know that they mean that much to you. As for the blog entry, I think it was tacky of your SIL to run around telling everyone and trying to make you feel bad for expressing the way you were feeling. Some people are so hungry for attention that they do stuff like that and act as if they had discovered a diamond. Don't feel bad, you did nothing wrong.

Answer 5

I don't think it was wrong. Blogs are like journals where you put your thoughts...it's away for people to vent. It might have been better to let them know how you feel...but you are human, I probably wouldnt either. I feel bad that they are leaving town, it's hard when people you love move away :(

Answer 6

i think u did good, but some people might dissagree w/ me. the thing is that u feel better when u tell a stranger than to tell ur family. it happens to everyone at some point. especially when u are a bit depressed. just try to do some activity to get u of ur normal role and HAVE FUN!!!

Answer 7

Now that you know they read your blog you need to be careful what you say on it. People love to get offended.
If you want to be able to really say whatever you want it is best to have an anonymous blog they dont know about.

Answer 8

Tell them you have enough trouble confiding in them and their verbal attacks are only making things harder to deal with. Then get a blog with a screen name they don't know about.

Answer 9

Na you did a good thing. They found out, even better! You couldn't have planned it better if you tried. They shouldn't be mad, they should be supportive. I can see why you didn't tell them directly! I suspect things are going to get a whole lot better fro you now! :)

Answer 10

WELL, at least they know.YOU know you were being honest and thats a good thing. GETTING it off your chest is another good thing. I AM proud of u. star