What difference it makes?

Question

I'm ugly and always had problem with my self-esteem so I went to a psychiatrist and all he was talking about that I should believe that I'm good looking and that someone out there thinks that I'm beautiful....etc but what difference it makes if I can't change the way people think about me?
I'll always be ugly

Answer 1

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I may find someone beautiful and others may not.

Hold self confidence and be happy with yourself :)

When someone is truly looking for a relationship and love there is so much more than a pretty face...How about humor, sensitivity, respect..... :)

Answer 2

the only thing that really matters is what you think because it's your life that it will effect. if you can't get up the guts to do something that could make your life better, that's one more opportunity gone. Just take small steps and find good things about yourself. Eventually your looks won't be a huge deal. I'm not saying that you'll find yourself the most attractive creature to talk the planet, or even like the way you look, but the less you perceverate the less it will bother you. Then you will have greater self-esteem and life will seem a little better which allows you to think even less about your looks. Things do get better, it just takes time and brain power. No one can convince you of anything if you can't believe it yourself.

Answer 3

I think that different people are attracted to different things....you don't always have to be attracted to some one to like being with them--and once you start really liking them they will start looking better and better to you. If you are only looking for shallow people who only see the outside then you will be disappointed. Also, it is very hard to be around some one who is always putting themself down. No one wants to have to keep reassuring you all day, every day...that gets old. And honestly fake it til you make it is a good way to change your habits and moods. Maybe you think you are not the greatest looking person...but maybe you like your hair up- so start wearing it up a lot and you will feel a little better. Keep making little changes like that and keep doing things you like. I think a person's attitude can really change the way they look. Sounds like you might need more counseling though cause you have pretty low self esteem. Good luck.

Answer 4

ugh--your councellor sounds like he was trying too hard.

Try this, I mean you say your feelings about yourself are to do with self-esteem correct? Why not start volunteering more often? I went through this in my past as well because I lived in a small town & never dated ... it turns out I never dated because it was a small town! So sometimes reality is within the eye of its beholder!

Trust me, I felt much prettier when I started getting more involved in other groups, I joined drama & I encourage you to do also because it allowed for me to try different "ppl" without being myself so much.

Try Drama, take a mask-making workshop, try a dance class or try learning how to golf! Try something new & just take it slow and try to do it outside of your familiar ppl & surrondings.

Plus that way, when you are around new (to you) people, in an unfamiliar environment you are more likely to "let yourself go"!

Plus you are away from all those ppl who are judging you or who you feel who are judging you! Something that is more important!

Plus you'll find out how great you really are & move from there. But I think once you find somethng outside your current familar group of friends or people, you'll find that you are worth all those words that your old councellor told you about!

Most of people's beauty are in their insides and ppl can't see who you really are if you are too afraid to be "you" because you feel its your looks that aren't good enough.

Answer 5

Well if you are Asian? I asume because of your avitar???

Some of us already think you're hot... Just because you are, if you are Asian.

What you need to do is find a group of people, and get to know them and possibly find someone who, over time will love you... for you.

Looks are nothing really... I find the strangest looking people to be attractive... sexy even, for reasons that have nothing to do with looks...

David Letterman is a goofy looking bastard... But I have always found him to be rather sexy just because of his wit and humor.

and then there is the whole Julia Roberts/Lyle Lovett marriage... Or Paulina Porizkova (the super Model) and Rick Ocasek (the cript keeper singer from the Cars)! That alone should have given you hope!

Answer 6

The way you look is not the most important thing. I don't think my boyfriend is good looking...but he's very confident and has a great personality. It's the way you carry yourself...not the way you look.

Answer 7

one person can think you are good looking and another person may disagree and say you are not, it is only an opinion.i think there are many many so called "good looking"people that are very very unhappy deep down in their heart and many so called "not so good looking" people who are very very happy people.some are so obsessed with their looks they get plastic surgery and all that stuff but i think your inside state of mind is more important than your appearance

Answer 8

fae it until you make it.
people can see whether your confident or not just by looking at you.
so pretend you are confident if you arent and you will see that people dont think your ugly.

Answer 9

people feel your vibe,so u need to put out a confident vibe. to help with this you need to do things that make you feel good about yourself.
try it .

Answer 10

Dude, girls are waaaay less shallow than guys. Seriously, looks hardly matter, as long as you have personality.

p.s. I like your profile name. MGS3 = best game ever.