I'm 16 years old, 5'6, and 110 pounds. Everytime I see my mother, she tells me I'm too fat, I'm too big, and that I need to stop eating. She tells me she is saying this for my own good, so that I won't become even fatter. I know I'm not fat, everyone always tells me how proportional and slim I am, but it really hurts that my mother doesn't like me the way I am. My mom is a yo-yo dieter, and she obsesses about weight. I don't want to be like that, but I just want her to approve of me. I don't know how to lose weight in a healthy way, can anyone give me any tips? I also have a rather full face, which my mother always insults; how do I make it look thinner? Thank you for your help.
2007-03-31 17:13:19 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diet & Fitness
go to bookstore and find a book about your problem, something that explains how mothers pass on their own problems and issues to their children and how to deal with it. buy it and give it to your mom.
2007-03-31 20:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Natalie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is an obsessive compulsive by the sounds of it and needs professional help. Please don't let her problem affect your self esteem and bring you down. You are actually underweight, so your mother has a very distorted idea of what is fat/thin.
Just tell her you love her, but she needs to stop using your weight as an excuse not to face her own issues. It is just a cover up for a much deeper problem that your mother has and she needs to work on dealing with this with a counsellor.
Do NOT try to lose weight or give in to her demands, not only would this be very unhealthy as you are underweight, it will also justify her false beliefs and encourage her to keep pushing you further until you end up with an eating disorder.
If you can't talk to your mother about this, then maybe you can tell a teacher or your doctor, but you have to tell someone, because what your mother is doing is nothing short of emotional abuse.
Take care : )
2007-03-31 20:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are not fat or even close to fat. If anything you are under weight. A girl your height should weight about 120-125 pounds. You need to talk to your counsel at school and ask for a meeting with your mom. It sounds like she is the one that needs some major help.
For starters don't look at anyone other than yourself for approval. Your happiness with yourself lies inside you. Trust me on this one.
Your mom has issues with her image and she does not know any better than to push her feelings onto you. I am very proud of you that you know you are not fat. That is wonderful! It takes a strong self worth and image to believe you look pretty.
Get some counseling together. Your counsels at school are a great place to start.
If you want your face to look thinner try long hair. It will give length to your face. Change only because you want to not for anyone else.
2007-03-31 17:29:41 · answer #3 · answered by Athena13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol go with what Compton said and punch her in the face ahaha.
Hm.. seriously though, 110 lbs/5'6 is pretty skinny. You're naturally fit. You're not the one who needs a diet in order to stay slim. Maybe your moms the one that's "naturally fat" XDD Just ignore her =/ My mom's like that too. I'm 5'7/116 lbs. My mom's always telling me I need to go on a diet too. I just learned to look past it; moms are always gonna have something to complain about.
2007-03-31 17:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Comtons answer was my first thought. But seriously, if want to lose weight just eat healthier foods and exercise. Also explain to your mother you dint appreciate what she says. I take it you don't live with her by your comment, if that's the case just stay away if all she does is puts you down. You don't need that from anyone especially a mother.
2007-03-31 17:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by scotty69nh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, mom is just jealous. Learn to love yourself. Quit trying to please her and you will be much much happier. Read proverbs daily. It will clear you mind so that you will know what your mom is all about. It took me years and years to learn this that my mom is jealous of everything I do or say. She will not say anything, but I feel it. Proverbs will give you clarity and peace of mind. She is even jealous that I found a great love after all the losers I have been with.
2007-03-31 17:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by glenda576 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not fat! I think you should talk to your mom and explain the way you feel. I am sure she would understand and help you stay the way you are - Beautiful! They said by drinking alots of water helps.
2007-03-31 17:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by luz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when this kinda thing happens, its usually jealousy on the mothers part because she cant look as good as you. this happened in my family with results that were not good. its easy to say, but forget about your moms opinion, if your happy with yourself, thats all that matters. is your mom a drunk? if she is, pay no attention to what she says, her views are distorted.
2007-03-31 17:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by chris l 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hah. You are actually far underweight. Tell her that you are at an unhealthy weight (too low) already, and that if she loves you, and wants you to live, she won't send you hurling into depression and anorexia.
2007-03-31 17:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by AK 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Really Pounch her in the face Nice JOB COMPTON
2007-04-01 08:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by Shawn T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋