I've been dating a mormon girl for about five months now and am wondering what's in store for me in the future. Contrary to the stereotype, I have recieved absolutely no pressure from my girlfriend to go to church with her or to consider converting to LDS. I've only talked to her parents a handful of times but they seem to be fine with it. My girlfriend has told me that her dad wasn't mormon before they were married, so that may be why her parents are fine with me not being mormon, but does that mean that they expect me to convert? She also told me that not all mormons convert their nonmormon partners, and sometimes it happens the other way around. I live in Iowa so it's not like I'm in Utah and there are Mormons everywhere you look, so I only really know what I've heard from her about LDS. Any views from LDS or non LDS would be greatly appreciated
2007-03-31 16:18:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You would have to convert in order for her to be sealed to you in the temple. If you didn;t according to her belief she could not get into heaven because you would not be there to call her. We see interfaith marriages here and the pressure is always to convert to Mormonism. I have never seen a marriage last without conversion, if not the Mormon will divorce the nonMormon in the blink of an eye since it is not a celestial marriage. This is of course here, maybe other places they are not as bad because they don;t have the "back up" or pressure. It is usually easier if the male is the one who is Mormon since his getting into the celestial kingdom does not depend on his spouse like a woman's does.
NOTE: her dad was not a Mormon BEFORE they married.
2007-03-31 16:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As a LDS, the church has no law against dating non-mormon.
your relationship is really your choice, but i do recommend, like the other LDS suggested, to see what is mormon belief before getting serious like marriage.
Like the other LDS said, there are sacred blessings that only faithful member can participate in, and if you are not a member, I hope you do not feel left out at that time.
2007-04-01 03:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by Wahnote 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nerd said it. One of my parents is Mormon, the other non-practicing Catholic. And their marriage has lasted many, many years. There probably won't be pressure to convert, but the option will always be there. It is a bit harder on the LDS member, because not being sealed to your spouse basically means you are not guaranteed to be together in the afterlife. Never know where anyone is headed if there is an afterlife though, so not much to worry about there.
2007-03-31 23:26:38 · answer #3 · answered by KS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I began dating my husband(then my boyfriend) he was not LDS, over the course of our courtship he converted. I did not pressure him to do so. All I did was tell him about the church, give him a Book Of Mormon, and invite him to come to church with me. He decided to visit with the missionaries on his own.
My sister and my brother are both married to nonmembers, as is my cousin. My husband is the only member of his family. The church encourages people to marry within the church, but you still have your choice. If everybody is OK with
it, and you love each other, go for it. If you marry her, please be supportive of whatever she does in the church. It causes less problems.
However, there are certain blessings that are only available to members who marry other members in the temple. You and her have to decide, what is best for you.
2007-03-31 23:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
As an LDS father, I'd be disappointed if my children even dated a person who isn't of the same faith. In our faith marriage has eternal significance and I don't want my children even getting tempted to marry someone outside of it.
There are some success stories, but much more often than not, according to the statistics I've heard, it causes serious problems.
Of course you could always take a look at what Mormons believe. It's worth serious consideration.
2007-04-01 00:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan Kingsford 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Religion shouldn't get in the way of how you see a person. I don't see anything wrong with Non-mormon and mormon dating. (Although I'm not Mormon).
2007-03-31 23:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by xxbballer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know an LDS married to a non-practicing Catholic.... there is no pressure on him that I see. Depends on how gung-ho they are.
2007-03-31 23:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
non LDS you should find out from her in a very cautious manner which way things are going to go before you get too far.
2007-03-31 23:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by 34356 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, I would guess, on how serious each of you is about your own faith. If someday, it's serious enough to lead to talk of marriage, there are going to be some serious concessions to make as far as things like how to raise any children, etc.
2007-04-04 18:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by mormon_4_jesus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People should not date outside their religion.. It just puts stress on relationships... She may/may not expect you to convert. I know when my sister married a catholic she had to promise to raise any kids in catholisism
2007-03-31 23:26:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋