On one hand, I want to do nothing just like he did for me. I also want to go all out and make a big fuss. For the same childish reason. What would you all do?
2007-03-31 15:36:13 · 17 answers · asked by sha 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Throw him a nice birthday get together with close family and friends at a retaurant. I'm sure he felt bad about forgetting your bday. He didn't mean to. I know it hurt your feelings, but it won't make anything better to hurt his feelings too. I betcha anything he will want to make it up to you when he sees how thoughtful you are.
But if you want to make him sweat, pretend like you forgot and make it a surprise!
2007-03-31 16:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be foolish. You don't gain anything by playing a game. He forgot your birthday, but are you really going to feel good if you totally ignore his birthday. Let's face it, we are women, it means more to us then it does to them. In the long run how are YOU going to feel if you do nothing for him. Forget about him, take him out of the picture. You don't throw him a party, how are you going to feel, you are going to feel rotten. You know you want to throw this party or you wouldn't be here asking the question. So, the hell with it, bit your tongue and go out and give him the best party you can and you will enjoy it too, you will probably enjoy it more than him. You will know that you were the bigger person and that you did what you wanted to do and you weren't a child. Go have fun and plan your little heart out. You'll feel better in the end.
2007-03-31 20:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by lochmessy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, get over that he forgot your birthday. Frankly it is your fault as well; you are a partnership, and should be working together. If he's forgetful, you should tell him in advance. I'm sorry, but you are right that to hold this grudge is childish.
What I would do? I would throw a GREAT 50th Birthday Party for him. It might be the last really big birthday to celebrate and it should be remember by him and by you.
I'm being rude, but you really need to get over yourself.
2007-03-31 16:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happens to me (pretty much every year), and for his most recent birthday I didn't buy him a present, but we went out and had a good time. It seemed to me he even chose a birthday activity on HIS birthday that he knows I enjoy WAY more than he does (we went swing dancing, which he usually refuses to do). He doesn't come from a family that's big on gift-giving, and once I decided I should get myself what I want for my birthday (within reason), and let him do the same or not, we've been much more peaceful.
2007-03-31 18:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by kate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Split the difference and have a party, but do not make a huge fuss. Your husband did not mean to forget, it wasn;t like he wanted to hurt you.... He is human and forgot. Of all the things to forget, hiw wife's birthday is a pretty bad one, but still......it happens.
Do like you normally would do. Don't go all out with a big fuss, but dont ignore it. Chances are, he will realize he forgot yours and aplogize on the spot.
2007-03-31 15:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by cognitively_dislocated 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, if you are still hurt from his forgetfullness - which i take it you are, then you pour thought and love into getting him the best gift he could ever hope for. Give it to him with a huge explanation of how much you care for him, love his good qualities, etc (p.s no sexuall gifts - duh!)- and then tell him how much you appreciated his EXTREEM thoughtfullness when he gave you your birthday present... he'll get the message and feel like a complete ***, plus you can rest assured he will think to himself "hey, my wife really loves me and is so thoughtfull ... " right before you remind him subtly how self centered he is without ever having to go through the ungracefull process of formally calling him on it. Above all things a woman is gracefull - it adds to her mystery. This is guaranteed to work if your husband is even remotely intelligent.
2007-03-31 16:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the mature woman that you are and celebrate and wish your HUSBAND a happy 50th birthday. This is more significant than 40.
2007-03-31 17:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by boo4yoo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would give him a terrific 50th birthday.......but afterward I would explain how hurt I was when he forgot my birthday.
Then next May start reminding him of your upcoming birthday in June.
It's not fair....but how life is sometimes.
2007-03-31 15:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive, forget, and throw the biggest 50th bday bash for your hubby. Happy 40th, by the way.
2007-03-31 15:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Make the fuss for him,,two wrongs don't make a right..trust me, he will feel like more of a fool with your big shin dig,,once he realizes what he has done,then I'm sure he will make it up to ya....good luck gf.
2007-03-31 15:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by lisadivirgilio 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋