How can I cheer up my mom?

Question

Here is what happened: Her job that she absolutely loved just got eliminated, and she is having difficulties finding a new one. Also, she has been training for a marathon for the past 2 months and she's been working so hard and just the other day she injured her legs. Now, she can't run in the marathon, and she feels as though she wasted last 2 months since she had been skipping doctors appointments and work and all her social committments to train. In addition, this was the last year she was going to be able to run in a marathon since she is going to be too old next year (in her opinion). Today, I tried so hard to cheer her up, but she just sat there and said "It's official. I am depressed." Now, usually she is a very positive person who tries to look on the bright side of things, and I have never seen her so upset since her father died 7 years ago. PLEASE HELP ME!! What can I do??

Answer 1

It's tough for an adult when they 1) lose a job and 2) have physical limitations due to age. Surely there are some marathons or other physical contests around for her age group. Look for some in your area and make her aware of them. Check the newspaper, local gyms or "Y", ask your coach or gym instructor at school.

It may just take some time for her to make these adjustments. Hopefully, she can get another job. Offer to type her resume for her. Some churches or other organizations have support groups for those seeking employment. Try to find some info for her. Of course, you can't make her go, but let her know it's out there. If she lost her job, she may not have insurance to cover counseling, but there are sometimes free support groups or other help available on a sliding scale fee.

Lastly, since you do care so much, pamper her a little. If you can cook, make dinner a couple of nights. Make her a cup of tea and rent a movie you two can enjoy. Offer to do without some things (cellphone, new clothes, trips to movies) to help ease the financial burden, or get a job if you are old enough. Do some household chores without being asked. If you have siblings, enlist their help. It sounds like it's just the two of you, so you need to stick together.

Write her a letter telling her how concerned you are and that you want to help. Leave it where she'll find it while you're at school or asleep for the evening. Good luck to both of you.

Answer 2

Dear lovely,,,,, Once in a very similiar situation, after the loss of my mom.,,,, and depressed as I was, and no job either, and in poor health..... the best thing that helped me, was my kids, ,, they would clean the house from top to bottom, they got the meals, and waited on me....and friends would phone me, and my best friend would stop by and read to me, offer to take me to a movie,,,just simple things......she would sit and brush my hair, making me feel special. And after a time,,,, I did feel better, I found another job, and got into it,,,,and after some more time went by , all was back to normal. The interesting thing tho?? My kids at that time were 8 and 10. So, if your older than that,,,,you can do a lot to help her... and it won't cost you a cent. Call her friends up, have them stop by......maybe have them bring some recent pictures they took together at an event, which meant a lot to her....to them both. Or maybe a funny letter to share from an aquaintance they both know and love. Sometimes a good jigsaw puzzle, is fun. Perhaps her favorite food, or snack.....or book,,,,,,,,, Or maybe an article about a famous person who has had a lot to overcome.... like Mr. Lance Armstrong.....he's very athletic, and had to overcome cancer. If he can do it .... anyone can. There are web sites one can look at for other idea's....
and good luck.

Answer 3

You've got to assure her that she is a winner, and that everything happens for a reason..Tell her that God never closes one door,without opening another, and that for whatever reason, she is strong and will always come back on top..and that you can't keep a good woman down...then, tell her to go for a walk with you, and talk,..and go get a makeover of some sort, both of you..and most of all, tell her that God and Jesus love her, just the way she is, and that everything is going to be fine..tell her that she should count her blessings,...and to know that something else must be in the plans for her God bless and good luck little one..xo

Answer 4

She will NOT be "too old" to run the marathon next year.

Make dinner for her and talk to her a lot. Keep telling her how much you love her and need her.

She will find a job soon.

Answer 5

Your mom will be ok. She just had some disappointments to deal with. See if you can engage her in some kind of activity to take her mind off her disappointments. Rent a funny video and give her a good book to read before bed. Don't worry with a great kid like you around she will be her old self very soon.

Answer 6

she is having a hard time..just like when her father died. It will pass and everything will work out. Don't take it personally, just be there for her as much as you can and know that it will get better and pass.

Answer 7

It will take time. Try to spend some time with her - as much as you think she would enjoy, but not so much that she feels smothered. Send her some flowers. Take her out to lunch or something. Basically, just be there for her. She'll come around eventually.

Answer 8

Honey, you are already doing it, do you know how many moms would kill to have a kid like you?.........She will rally and feel better, remind her she still has you, and what a good job she did raising you...she is lucky as he** and she will snap back......what a blessing children like you are.

Answer 9

Make jokes to her, turn the radio and invite her to dance, invite her to read a book or see a movie.

Answer 10

Baby Do What You're Doing Already--- LOVE HER She Knows, and I Assure you, She's Grateful for you. XOXO.