went out on a double date with this guy whom I went to high school with... we went on a date before the this past summer..so we decided to go out again b/c we had fun the first time... we went to dinner and to the movies...we cuddled during the movie and all that cute d stuff...but when he dropped me off, w were in the car & he wanted to tongue-kiss me but i don't tongue-kiss on the first date... after a few days I called him and we talked... i tried calling him again but this time he didn't answer or return my call...I dont want him to be the type of guy who thinks I owe him b/c he spent money on me...I genuinely like him alot...I like kissing him... but tongue-kissing not yet...we have time for all of that..but he probably doesn't see things that way.. So i deleted his # and haven't called him since
2007-03-31 13:37:26 · 20 answers · asked by Bella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're doing o.k.
It doesn't matter whether he's a jerk or not. At least you know your own boundaries.
I'm proud of you for knowing who you are.
2007-03-31 13:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right, you owe nothing.
But at the end of a first date if I try to kiss a girl and there is no spark....well that is why you date, not to buy a girl dinner, but to see if there is any spark there. If you didn't like him enough to kiss him, why should he take you out again? Wouldn't that be stupid if not only was there no spark when you kissed, but you didn't like him enough to even kiss.
You rejected him.
2007-03-31 20:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he doesn't feel compelled to pursue a relationship with you doesn't make him a jerk, necessarily. If the shoe were on the other foot, would you be the jerk for not returning the calls of someone with whom you didn't feel a connection? It's called casual dating for a reason. It's not like he took advantage of you, toyed with your emotions afterwards, and then froze you out.
2007-03-31 20:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by DW2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. This guy is a jerk. He obviously does not see that what a relationship really needs to survive is communication, not tongue-kissing and all that jazz. I suggest forgetting about the rude dude and find a real man. You might not want to hear this but, he's not worth it.
2007-03-31 20:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is good that you have not called him back after he did not respond. The "ball is in his court" now, so let him get in contact with you.
Dont feel that you owe him anything though just because he spent money on you. It was nice of him to pay, but like I said you do not owe him anything.
2007-03-31 21:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by poshgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smart move on your part. If the guy doesnt understand where you are coming from then he doesnt deserve to be in your life and you shouldnt want him there. Lots of girls do things they wish they hadnt, simply because they feel pressure to do so. You should be very proud of yourself that you had a line and you stuck to it. Wait for the nice boys who will follow the rules you set.
2007-03-31 20:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by auburn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he isn't home when you call??He seems like a nice guy(accept for the tongue-kissing)
2007-03-31 20:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by ♥JESUS IS MY SAVIOR ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not a jerk per se..you may have hurt his feelings with your pullaway. Men do not like rejection. You should contact him and ask him out. But do stay to your rules. That part was perfect.
2007-03-31 20:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done the right thing, girl. This guy's not worth your time Find someone else or you'll end up frustrated before you know it. This guy only wants sex and that's it. So forget him.
2007-03-31 20:43:38 · answer #9 · answered by Reycen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm you said that you decided to go out with him again... thats when he wanted to "tounge kiss" you. or maybe im confussed.
dont ever do anything you dont wanna do.
it happened to me before and i went to get out of the car and he grabbed me by the underwear. so i got back in a slapped him across the face.
you know your limit and your boundries. stick by them there are plenty of guys out there.
2007-03-31 20:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by nickay v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋