I can't get a date?

Question

im 17 and the only people who asked me out were people i did not like back. How long do i have to wait to find someone with a mutual interest in me?? Will he ever come?? What should i do to get a guy to like me? A good guy friend of mine said i was intimidating cause i am aggressive and pretty. What should i do?

I don't want to be desperate and be like most girls in my high school and go out with random guys just because they are hot. I want a guy i actually like. Is this asking for too much?

Answer 1

Ok now for an "old man's perspective"... First, totally disregard that one response about find a 50 year old over the internet and have sex...that is completely disrespectful to you, and everyone who has a question similar to yours. The answer is simple, you have to wait as long as it takes.... in a word you need "patience". You don't need to change anything about yourself, or "do anything" either.... I am not meaning to sound condensending, but at 17 you have yet to truely discover who you are.... maybe if anything you could spend some time in reflection on who you are, what your actually dreams are, and what your plans (outside of finding someone to ask you out) are. I used to date extensively when I was younger and the only thing it lead to was early marriage and guick divorce (three times in 10 years).... I have been single now for 18 years,.and am waiting (patiently) for the "right person". In simplest terms, know yourself, be yourself, settle for nothing less than you deserve, and be patient.

Answer 2

Hi,

I was told I could not date until I was 16 and then I wasn't ready. When I was asked to go out, I did with two people once each the whole time I was in high school.

The first one told me to not eat and my Dad told me be home by 11:00. He took me to a cousins place who rented apartments. In one apartment was a cop. He wanted to meet this cop because he wanted to be a cop!!!! I was mortified. Then he took me parking lot hopping to all the people he knew and they were drinking and cussing. I was so uncomfortable. He offered me a piece of gum and a can of pop. That was my first date. I am not saying you should go out with the first person who asks you, as you can see I went and it wasn't a good date. I was so thankful when it was time to go home. He got made fun of because he had to take me home so "early". Heck, I was thinking 8:00, it should have ended.

The second date was with a nice guy who took me to White Castle and then to a movie. He copied every move I made. If I leaned forward, he leaned forward. If I put my foot up, he put his foot up. When he took me home, I thought he would Never leave. He followed me into the kitchen. I believe he thought he was going to get a kiss. He did not. I guess I was just not ready then.

Dating was not all it was cracked up to be even then. They are not really mature at that age. We are more mature than they are at our age. :You should not change who you are just to get a date. You do not want to be desparate. A guy will not like you if you change yourself just to get him to like you.

Be yourself. Highschool boys are difficult. When the right guy comes along you will know it. In the meantime, I suggest, you just get to know the guys who ask you out just as friends. You will get to meet and know more guys that way. They might have cousins you might not know, etc. Don't rush into anything. Friendship is always a good start to any type of relationship anyway. You will attract the right guy at the right time. Do not give up hope and do not change who you are.

I am 39 years old now and I dated off and on until I have finally found someone who is worth dating. Don't get me wrong, he isn't perfect. I am not perfect either. At least this guy doesn't cheat on me and he is respectful and likes me for who I am. Best wishes to you. Hang in there. He WILL come. I will pray for you.

Answer 3

Psh. Seems to me your walking over guys who actually do have a "mutual interest" in you. Stop acting high and mighty and actually meet one of these guys thats trying to ask you out. I could understand if they were weirdos (covered in tatoos and pierced, druggies, etc etc.) But if theyre just some "plain" guy and maybe arnt as hot as you would like, you could be letting some very good-hearted guys slip past. (Just because you don't like them this second doesn't mean that you can't grow to love them if you get to know them) As for changing yourself to please boys, don't. If you need to alter yourself for them, then they aren't worth s***. I myself am considered a "bad girl", agressive. I don't know whether id be considered "pretty", but guys at my school I respect say they care more about my strong morals and heart then about the brand of clothes I wear or the type of makeup I use.

Answer 4

honey...yes you will...i know it seems hard now but just look outside of the people you know...i mean i never got asked out until i started going to a private christian school, find someone who has a mutual Interest with you...its easier to find someone that you love hanging out with and they will love hanging out with you

Answer 5

Give those guys a chance. Dating does not have to be serious. it is fun. With the experience, you will know what you want and do not want in a guy. Who knows? you might grow to really like the guy. When i started to date my current boyfriend, I did not like him at first. I grew to really really like him and fall in love with him.

Answer 6

I think you should give the other person a chance and see if you like him after hanging out and getting to know the person. Otherwise...you'll be single.

Answer 7

meet 50 year olds for sex over the internet

Answer 8

you should be a tramp like all the other "popular" girls. and maybe bathe ! JUST KIDDING.
(be yourself and don't lower yourself)

Answer 9

ask someon eout