Hello. Are there any priests here or someone who knows for certain what the requirements are to get your marriage blessed in the catholic church?
Because my fiance is not Catholic, I was raised Catholic but no longer practice. We really want an outdoor wedding and it would just be 10 times easier for us to have the ceremony done by non-demoninational minister. Would it be possible for us to do this and then a week or so later get our marriage blessed in the catholic church? Because my mom will scream and tell me I'm living in sin if I dont get married in the church. Is this a possibility or not?
THANKS
2007-03-31 11:24:24 · 7 answers · asked by snailysnal 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
go to your church
ask
2007-03-31 11:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to have your relationship (friendship or otherwise) blessed by a priest without becoming married by a priest. I'm not sure how this is done, so ask the priest. He may refuse - that's his prerogative. The only times I've heard of a relationship being blessed (instead of a marriage being performed) is for an older couple whose spouses have long since died and who want to present their relationship to the Lord but don't want to deal with the legal ramifications (ie, loss of social security or pensions from the deceased spouse) that result from a second marriage.
In all truth, why are you trying to appease your mom? Neither you nor your fiancee believe in the Catholic Church. I am Catholic, I married Catholic, I believe and find Christ in the Catholic faith, but I wouldn't ask you to adhere to something you don't believe in.
Let your mom scream. Gently remind her that "living in sin" means living together without being married. The Catholic Church will recognize as valid a civil ceremony. She should too. If she really has a hard time with it, make sure to tell her that you're sorry she can't make it, but your wedding is meant for two people: you and your fiancee.
2007-04-02 13:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Veritatum17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is right- you will be living in sin if you are not married in the Church. You can get permission- a dispensation to marry in another location, but the proper place for the celebration of a sacrament is the church. You are the bride- it should be in your church. Whether you practice the faith or not- you can't 'un-do' being Catholic.
There is no such thing as getting a marriage 'blessed.' The proper term is convalidated.
Go talk to a priest. He will tell you the right way to do this....and it's your wedding- it is worth doing right. Have your reception outside if being outdoors means that much to you!
2007-04-02 17:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just a thought... Why would you get your marriage blessed by the Church if you do not intend on living your marriage as a sacrament as the Church understands it?
Since you would only be doing that to please your mom, wouldn't that also constitute a sin, that is by going through an action that has specific meaning in the Church without having the intention of following through with the meaning of that action?
I can't tell you to just go and get married outside the Church, because I would hope for you to come to understand the sacramental character of marriage as the Church understands it. - For one thing, that by your life and union (physical, spiritual, emotional, etc) you and your husband would be a sign of the love of Christ and the Church, the same intimate union (not only physical) between you and your husband would glorify and point to the intimate union of God and each person in Jesus Christ. (And who said the Church is against sex?)
If you do decide to just have a non-denominational wedding, you will have to face up to your mother and risk her rejection (which wouldn't necessarily be a Christian thing to do to a daughter... of course there is a difference between wanting your daughter to live the sacramental life of the Church and rejecting your daughter if she marries outside the Church, and you might need to make sure you aren't confusing the two - yet I don't know your situation.).
2007-03-31 18:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last I checked, if you are not married in a Catholic church, you are not considered married.
2007-03-31 18:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will be blessed just as soon as you let them know how much you will tithe. Don't fall for the pedipheliac pant-loads spew. Think for yourself.
2007-03-31 18:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
virginity.
2007-03-31 18:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋