Our daugther is 4yrs old and luvs her daddy, but within the last yr he has stolen my diamond ring, stole our car, and has taken money out of my purse and used my debit card. He is has a drug addiction and is not seeking help. He says he wants a family, but his actions dont match his words. Should I not allow him to see our daughter?
2007-03-31 11:14:26 · 13 answers · asked by R H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no as long as he's not harming ur daughter then it should be fine to let him visit her. but if he has a drug addiction u should be there like at a park with them or somethin.
now i do believe that u should stop the relationship and kick him out of the hous if he's stealing from u. girl u gotta kick him to the curb
2007-03-31 11:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by Diamond Princess 313rd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should, but you should always monitor the visit closely. It would be best if you meet somewhere out side your home where there's alot of people around, like in a park setting.
You're daughter's father needs help. You may want to get in contact with his parents and brainstorm some ways of getting help for him. Even if you have to contact Dr. Phil and ask him for some help do it! The reason why you want to help him is because if something may escalate and you daughter may get caught in the middle of it, also she need a good father in her life.
God Bless
2007-03-31 11:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your lawyer; you may need a restraining order to keep him away from your daughter and you.
I personally think he should NOT see your daughter. At best, he is committing crimes to get and use the drugs. Second, he is committing a crime by driving high with your child in the car, to say nothing of the fact he is seriously putting both of them at risk. Plus, he is a HORRIBLE role model!
If he is on probation, report him to his probation officer and the police.
You can explain to your daughter that daddy has a problem with drugs, and it's not good for her to see him right now.
2007-03-31 11:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by boogeywoogy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm only 17 but I think you shouldn't do that. I am the only girl in my group that has a father at HOME, another one doesn't but she still knows her father. All my other friends don't and let me tell you...what they say is true, a girl needs her father in her life. There is a difference between me and my friend compared to the other girls in our group. My friends tend to look for love in other men and usually those men aren't good for them. They really wish they knew their father regardless of the bad stuff he does/did. One gets really angry at her mom sometimes because she keeps her from him.
My dad is a borderline alcoholic and he cheats on my mom 24/7, he's even put hands on her. I've had times where i despised him. But it seems when things go wrong with him and he's absent from home for a while, I crave that love from a guy. Even though my dad does stupid things I still feel that I need him in my life.
2007-03-31 11:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by uglyvanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You I am sorry to say do not have the right to not let your child's father see her. But you do have the right and should go back to court if you have been already and if you haven't file papers for sole custody.
If your child's dad makes no attempts to get himself clean then through the courts you can keep him from at least not being able to spend time with her unsupervised.
Good Luck you are not wrong for trying to protect your child.
2007-03-31 19:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this is one of those things when u will be dammed if you do and dammed if u don't. i don't think there is an easy way. just monitor the situation and if needs must enlist help from family or friends to support visits with your daughter to her daddy. always remember if you don't give your daughter the opportunity now think about how she might feel in 10yrs if you didn't do everything you could have
2007-03-31 11:31:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a choice to better his life to be able to see his daughter or drugs and not see his daughter. Don't allowing him to be alone with his daughter when he is under the influence of drugs.
2007-03-31 11:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think taking away her father would be a bad idea, however, if he will be a bad influence I would not allow him to see her.
I would get a court order stating he had to go to rehab and counseling if he wanted to see her.
2007-03-31 11:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by ginseng_and_honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should allow him to see her. Just as long as your there to. He might do a runner with her or worst. The worst thing you can do to a person it take away there own child. It is like steeling his own blood.
-Kira
P.S.: Help him clean up his act.
2007-03-31 12:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until he cleans his act up, I wouldn't allow it. Maybe being denied access to his daughter is exactly the shock he needs to wake up and get help. In intervention speak its called your "bottom line".
2007-03-31 11:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋