AM I WRONG TO CHEAT ON MY HUSBAND, if he is not trying to make it work.?

Question

I have been married for 4 years.My husband is faithful i believe when we married i was in love with him but now i love him BUT I"M NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM.My husband & i ve not had sex in 18 months because he has gain alot of weight & will not listen to me when it comes to losing weight.All he does is work, eat & sleep.We don't ve children.He doesn't want to go out 4 movies, dinner, games because he now has low self esteem. When i cook healthy food, he orders pizza, when i talk to him about the weight & eating smaller protions he yells at me. When i tell him that l miss MAKING LOVE with him he says "i will buy you sex toys" .I was feeling lonely & sexually deprived i found myself longing 4 his attention.

6 months ago i meant a great guy that i enjoy spending time with him(He knows i'm married).i enjoy everything about him. He compliments me almost everything time.He notices when i have something new on.He is a single Dad of a 4yrs old Cute boy,his successful & he apppreciates me

PROBLEMS..

1) My husband promised to kill me if i ever decide to leave him and i beleive he would.

2)The guy i'm cheating with is white and i'm not. i'm thinking it might affect his ever growing success. His son seems to take a liking to me.

i don,t ever think my husband is trying to lose weight. my husband will not go to counseling with me.

i'm falling for the guy i'm having an afffair with. He has introduced me to his family and his son f course. He is everything i want in a man.

i'm scared my husband will try to hurt me or the other guy if i ask to divorce.

am i wrong

Answer 1

Of course you're not.Sorry for you,You have the right to be loved.Yo have the right to be happy.You have the right to have sex.As a matter of fact,you have the right to live a life no to be a victim of a nightmare with someone who the word self-steem is not in his vocabulary.Get rid of that guy and start a new life with this person.Race,sometimes is not a problem.Look for yourself.Don't waste time.My best wishes.