If I didn't think we were going to get married, I would have never spent so much on such a gift. Is it wrong to want it back?
2007-03-31 09:39:00 · 22 answers · asked by beth s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say yes, you gave it to her out of love. Let her keep it
2007-03-31 09:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to want it back, however the key word here is GIFT. Since it was a gift even though you would not have given it if you knew you were not going to get married, it was a gift.
Unless the person wants to return it I would put it down as learning from your mistakes and move on.
2007-03-31 09:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by 91106 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know and your would be partner knows that the gift by its cost could only have been given in the belief that yuou both would marry. However if you did the breaking up ,you should not be wanting to get it back . After all the gift was not given conditionally.
2007-03-31 09:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. A gift is a gift. I, however,always give all the gifts back. Why would I want something from someone who broke up with me or I broke up with?
2007-03-31 09:43:31 · answer #4 · answered by Yomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to want it back b/c you're human. We as humans can be go to the extreme of every emotion at times, which just shows that no one is perfect. Having said that I want to point out that I answered the question that you asked.
Now, I'm going to answer the underlying question: Yes, it is wrong for you to ask for it back. You gave it to the person and it no longer belongs to you. I know you thought that you would marry the person, but sometimes things don't go as planned. Thats life, you live and you learn.
An old saying goes: If you ever want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans.
2007-03-31 09:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by kapy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong to want it back now.
A gift is a gift, you don't go putting strings on it because then it isn't a gift it is a bribe or something.
good luck for the future though.
2007-03-31 09:43:14 · answer #6 · answered by fieldmouse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't go around buying people! So hard luck you are the loser. 'That's the way it is, some things will never change' I feel sorry for you.. Remember there are plenty of pebbles on beach try giving those as a present? There are loads of them and they are free! Good Luck, you sound like a giver, stop giving! do some taking. Regarde
2007-03-31 14:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Beth if it was a gift he doesnt have to give it back, thats the law, But if you were to ask him nicely he may, other than i dont know what to tell you, Good luck.
2007-03-31 09:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by terryodell42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a gift is a gift no matter what,but i do under stand if there are hard feelings with you two.
2007-03-31 09:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a marriage gift then yeah, you should have got it back, because you never got married.
2007-03-31 09:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by Captain Heinrich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sort of wrong, as if u buy a gift 4 sum1, regardless of how much it costs, u shouldnt want it back. a gift is a gift!
2007-03-31 09:42:22 · answer #11 · answered by angi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋