I love this girl so much and we've been going out for 5 months, and i moved to some where far and i have to switch school, so i can't see her any more........ but i still can talk to her on the phone......
We're not breaking up yet, so, during Spring break, i drove from another state to her house just to surprise her,
and i saw her kissing another guy......., i was upset so i didn't say a word, then i just leave......
Was it my fault? , since me and her living so far away, i should break up with her, so i will stop making any further pain to her..... because i already know long distance relationship won't work out......
2007-03-31 09:02:27 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry she didn't break up with you before she decided to date someone else. I believe that if either person in the relationship decides to be with someone else, they owe it to the other person (it is called respect) to tell them they found someone else, it is too hard to have a long distance relationship, etc.... and call it off.
I am with you and your thinking. I have had many do that to me and not tell me. It is so disrespectful. It is her, not you. She had partnership in it too, not just you. She could have told you before she decided to start kissing on someone else. She obviously ended your relationship when she started another. She probably didn't want to hurt your feelings. That is no excuse in my book, because as you can see, it hurts more in the long run when you find out in another way.
It is not your fault. You will find someone who is more respectful of you and your feelings. Sometimes we have to meet these types of people to really respect the right person when they come along. I finally met someone who is very trustworthy when it comes to that. I would tell her that You know and you thought you knew her better than that and you are not sure you even want to be her friend anymore, and you should move on so you can meet the next person God has for you. You need closure with the girl who cheated on you first. Many blessings are being sent your way, and a big hug to you too.
2007-03-31 09:12:32 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people find it too hard to maintain long distance relationships. It is possible that she didn't like/love you enough. It is not your fault! She just wasn't committed enough.
They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but from what I have seen it makes the heart grow weaker.
You maintained connection with her which was important!
I am really sorry that you had to find out like that :(
Now you need to break up with her. Tell her that if she thought it couldn't work then she should have said something. You should not just be her back up when the guys at her school are not into her....basically you don't have to be with a girl who is double-crossing you.
Sorry that you had to find out like that.
2007-03-31 16:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was not your fault, you should have talked to her and she should have talked to you about your feelings about a long distance relationship.
That way you both would have had a better understanding of eachother before you went your seperate ways without seperating.
Believe me, long distance relationships have not worked very well for me in the past and it brings up a lot of "trust" issues that should have been resolved before you both were "seperated".
Do not blame yourself, it happens, move on and find yourself another wonderful girl, and remember, being hones is always the best policy!!!!!
2007-03-31 16:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a long distance relationship can always work if both ppl in the relationship want it to work. Talk to her about it. tell her how you feel and ask if she wants this to work as much as you want this to work. If she does then .... If she doesn't, then breakup. Just make sure if she says she wants to make it work, that you don't give 5 billion chances. Tell her you'll give her another chance.
2007-03-31 16:08:08 · answer #4 · answered by Oklahoma Fanatic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was cruel for her to kiss another guy--I think you should break up with her now that you know as long as you don't see her she will cheat on you. Especially since your relationship is now a long-distance one.
2007-03-31 16:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal♥of♥Iris 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest and just say that you saw her kissing someone else if she really had loved you it wouldnt of matter how far apart you both are it would of worked out. I would look for love some where else where they love you back
2007-03-31 16:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, i'm sorry about all of this. none of this was your fault, she just wanted to start seeing other people.
second, you should break up with her. it would probably be best for both of you. now she doesn't have to have secret relationships and you don't have to suffer from any heart ache. just think: you'll both be better off.
i know that you love her, and it might hurt, but they're plenty other fish in the sea (but who wants to date a fish...hahaha).
good luck ;-)
2007-03-31 16:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by SARB3AR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it was most definetly not your fault. she made the decision to cheat on you. long distance relatiionships can work out if ur really committed to this person. oh and to the person above me. you can trust a woman. at least more than u can treust a man. (no offense) just we all are unfaithful sometimes
2007-03-31 16:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by jldevin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, 5-months is not near long enough to know someone well enough to say you love them.
Second you have learned one of lifes lessions. "When the cats away the mice will play".
Third move on and get over it.
2007-03-31 16:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LONG DiSTANCE RELATiONSHiPS NEVER WORK OUT! TRUST ME i KNOW!...YOU SHOULD BREAK UP WiTH HER. SHE HAS A WHOLE OTHER LiFE NOW THAT YOU TWO ARE APART. i FEEL SO SORRY FOR YOU. JUST TELL HER iTS OVER THEN HANG UP iT WOULD MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER THEN SHE WOULD CALL BACK ASKiNG WHY?!?! LOL iT ALWAYS WORKS
2007-03-31 16:09:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋