I have this guy in my life and I love him so much... He lives about 4 hours away from me and i really want to be with him as much as i can...he was messing around before with a girl but she lives in cali and he lives in atlanta...so i let it go because i just look at it as a internet thing....i know he loves me because he proved it many times but i still have my doubts.....we been knowing each other for a while but only been together for 7 months and i cant see myself with anyone else but him and i want to make it right between us.....i've hurt him many times by falsely accusing him and almost breakin up with him for things that he didnt do......i have trust issues with him because girls do throw themselves at him but i cant help but feel that way......please help me, what should i do about my doubts and how would i know for sure if he's serious about us....
2007-03-31 08:19:07 · 9 answers · asked by lilruby052001 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sit down and have a serious talk with him. Tell him that you're concerned about the two of you. Talking to other women can't be going on, that won't turn out very pretty if he keeps that up. but he lives 4 hours away, well i suggest one of you moving closer together if it's possible. That's a rather long distance to be apart for a working relationship.
2007-03-31 08:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you cant trust the guy you might as well quit now. I know its probably hard because girls are throwin themselves at him but you have to trust. I hate gettin involved with guys like that. Mostly guys that look good or have that kind of attraction power will cheat if given the opportunity though there are rare ones who dont. Dont falsely accuse him of anything , itll just make it worse. Go with the flow. Ask him about his feelings and all I can tell you is trust him until youre shown a reason not to.
2007-03-31 08:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i see you are trying to convince yourself that he loves. I t sounds like you are desperate and deep down you know the guy is a playa and that why you want to move close to you can watch all his moves. You say you still have your doubts...Oh yes you will find someone else...once you let go and come to terms with you so called boyfriend..
why are you trying hard to put all the blame on the other girls..no matter how many girls throw themselves at him..he knows he has a g/friend and should not entertain them at all..
move is my advice or stay and keep wondering and crying.
2007-03-31 08:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by good_but_naughty_gal 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he was really serious about you he wouldn't be messing around with other girls, giving them the same idea he is giving you. Long distance relationships are diffuclt. Doubts are ways your mind and soul tell you that something is not right. Listen to yourself. And if you want to know if he is sure ask him. If he goesd around the question forget him. Make him give you an answer!
2007-03-31 08:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by LARRY74 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the fact that he is 4 hours away and you don't know where he is at this moment is something to behold. How can you maintain a relationship when he is so far away? Long distance relationships are difficult to maintain and you guys don't have kids and you don't have a wedding ring on your finger from him that would bind you with him. Why not move in with him or have him move in with you?
2007-03-31 08:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by e j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time will tell you wether or not he is serious and has feelings for you. Always go with your gut feeling its usually right. Stop accusing him of things you can't prove this will run him away. Do not lie to yourself either. Good Luck!
2007-03-31 08:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by mdboomskwad.mc4u 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Serious? Seriously, I wouldn't trust a man who talks to other women!
2007-03-31 08:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your trust issues are yours, not his, so you have to deal with them. That shouldn't be his problem.
Besides, he isn't ready for commitment if he was "messing around" with another woman.
2007-03-31 08:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by thatsit4theother1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to the LORD and see what HE wants you to do?
2007-03-31 08:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋