my mom is soooo annoying when it comes to shopping for shoes she always says tamika lets get ones that will suit you than she picks out pink granny ones that suck out loud i mean cant she let me choose for my self? (converse girl)
2007-03-31 08:01:33 · 16 answers · asked by tamika d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
talk to her.. i am sure she doesn't mean anything by it..I am sure she is trying to be helpful! SO how about cutting your mother some slack here!!!!!
2007-03-31 08:06:38 · answer #1 · answered by ♥cutemamma♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can talk to you mom about why you don't like the shoes and what shoes you would like to get. If she refuses, ask for a reason, hear her side of the story. It may be that shoes, such as converse, are too expensive. Tell her that you will pay half, or babysit and buy shoes with your own money. Just don't blow up at her and show by your ACTIONS that you are mature enough to choose your own shoes. But remember: It is your mom's money.
2007-03-31 08:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by roxmisox6 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to buy shoes that YOU like you have two choices...
1) ask your mother (nicely) before you go shopping if she has anything in mind for you, then you can say you would prefer Converse...it is easier not to have that argument at the store - have all of your reasons ready ie more comfortable, can wear them with different outfits, other shoes too girly, etc. and show respect for your mom as well
2) save up your money and buy the ones you want...I was a tomboy, and my mom always bought me girly things, so I got a part-time job and saved up enough to buy my own things
2007-03-31 08:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by jgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a mother and i do the same i guess we just dont want you to dress too grown-up just yet or send out the wrong message to the wrong people, i let my 12 year old pick out her own shoes once and she came home with the same pair that the neighborhood ho wears,and when she wore them to school they called me to bring her some more,and she thought she could handle them untill she fell and hurt her self now we decide together on which shoes will not cause us any problems,so you know shoe shopping for us is a nightmare. but we do it cause we love you and just want to keep you safe so you can grow up healthy and strong minded and get the hell out of our houses(hahaha) just hang in there, you will get over this.
2007-03-31 08:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i don't know exactly how old you may be, but it doesn't even really matter, because even after you're grown and out of the house, you're going to be her little baby. it's hard sometimes as a parent to accept that your little girl is growing up, and she may just not be ready to see you in clothes that you think are more appropiate for your age. the longer she can keep you in the cute little pink girly stuff, the longer she can blind herself to the fact that you are, indeed, growing up. it might be a money thing, too. some of the shoes i see on the market for kids are truly outrageously expensive, and i won't even buy them for myself. and even though you might think they're the coolest looking things in the world, as a parent, if we think it looks stupid, we are NO WAY going to let our kids wear it. it may be that you are not even close to being done growing, physically, and she doesn't see the point in spending a lot of $$ on a pair of shoes you'll outgrow in a few months. it may be that you're still young enough to not REALLY truly understand that money doesn't grow on trees, and are therefore a little hard on your clothes and shoes and they end up being ruined before you get enough wear out of them to make it worth the money she spent on them. there are a ton of different reasons that your mom might be buying you shoes you don't like, but if you can't ask her about it, or can't get her to change her mind, the only option you have is to wear what she buys you until you get a job of your own and can buy what you want. maybe she thinks they look good on you. maybe she thinks they're cute shoes and isn't factoing in that you don't think they look good on you. maybe she hates shopping for shoes and just grabs the first thing that she can. maybe the way you see yourself is not the way she sees you, and they really do suit you, but you don't think so because it's not what everyone else is wearing. maybe you shouldn't worry about it, because whoever goes up to someone and says "hi" to their shoes? i do believe if someone started eyeing up my shoes, i'd wonder if they were looking to steal them, and if they were an expensive pair of adidas or something, i'd probably be right. kids are killing each other over crap like that, in case you don't watch the news. maybe your mom doesn't want you shot over a pair of stupid shoes.
2007-03-31 09:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by zoë's mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents have no sense of style they can't help themselves. Maybe suggest to her that you'd like to chose your own shoes. Offer to do some chores to earn the money so you can buy the ones you like. I never got to dress cool until I started babysitting and I used my own money. My mom just didn't see the importance of being stylish.
2007-03-31 10:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get a job and can pay for your own shoes, then you can buy whatever you want. Until then, I don't think that you should complain about what your mom buys for you. You should be thankful that she even buys you anything to begin with. Some kids don't have that luxury.
2007-03-31 08:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by SAGAL79 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
moms can always give opinions but if she tells you what shoes to wear and just goes ahead and buys them without you giving your opinion thats just wrong. doesnt she notice she is wasting her money cause you wont end up using them anyway.
you need to talk with y our mom. tell her that what she picks you are not liking it and you want to choose your own things.
2007-03-31 08:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by mom_princess77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe becuase she really does think the shoes she has picked look lovely on you. You need to explain to her as gently as you can that the styles she chooses are not your taste. they are not perhaps the fasion you like. and try to show her your taste explaining that they are more the kind of thing young people like nowadays. mums dont deliberatly try to annoy their chidlren you know..... honest
2007-03-31 08:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start by telling her you got some-special shoes in your mind on your way out to the store that way maybe when you get choose what you like and honestly tell her you'll like to pick your own its you who wears them anyhow
2007-03-31 08:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you like. And common you know she says that ebcasue she cares about you. You would pick a pair of shoes over your mom?? Kinda sad.
2007-03-31 08:46:30 · answer #11 · answered by imsuchacutie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋