Do you ever feel overly dependent on your spouse/significant other? Ecspecially if you worked b4 you met him/her? Do you ever wonder how you would leave, if you ever wanted or needed to?
2007-03-31 07:40:39 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK...b4 everyone freaks out, let me re-phrase the question...who don't actually make money...I'M A STAY AT HOME MOM, TOO!
2007-03-31 07:51:35 · update #1
Stay at home moms don't work?????? I beg your pardon? Stay at home moms work dang hard. Why would I want to leave?
2007-03-31 07:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by tas211 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i now work, but have stayed at home with the kids before.
1) you are so lucky to be able to stay with your kids!!!!!
still, i know how you feel. remember that this time spent at home w/ the kids is invaluable. you can never go back and do it again or, do it over. each day spent w/ your kids is a day that once gone is gone.
you have to weigh the balances of advantages and disadvantages. unfortunately, it is easy to fall into the trap of thinking that all the advantages are weighed against you, which is not the case. you are going to be a lot happier and a lot more confident throughout your life if your kids grow up to be stable and productive adults. the time you are spending with them now might just make the difference, remember that.
you are feeling a bit insecure about it though, which is understandable. talk to you husband about it. try to work out a system wherein he automatically makes a set amount of money available to you, without your having to ask.
use this time to benefit yourself, also. keep yourself in good physical shape. incorporate working out into your daily routine with the kids - even if it is just taking a walk.
also, consider taking some classes on line. there are a whole host of excellent educational options available. you are entitled to use a portion of this time to further your career and better yourself, also. it is just a matter of how you to go about it.
know that you are doing what is best for you and your family right now. put your trust in God, if not your husband, and envision your children as happy, healthy adults anytime you start to worry.
2007-03-31 15:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A simple problem to solve if ever there was a need. Old saying don't let your left hand know, what your right hand is doing. You're at home start a home base business and open your personal account. Get a p.o. box address and if nothing else for the time save as much money as you can and you will start to regain your independence. Then leaving would never become an issue for you, you'll just do it.
2007-03-31 15:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by domybest1 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, my husband bumped me out of the checking account and wouldn't even let me grocery shop until recently. It was a nightmare and I almost lost my mind. Being able to be a stay at home mom depends highly on the financial and moral support of your spouse.
2007-04-01 23:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by StormyC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes...I definately felt overly dependent on my (now) ex-husband. He was mentally abusive and I was very unhappy but, I did not know how I would survive on my own with my kids. I was making some money taking care of other kids 50+ hours a week but, they were HIS sister's kids. Things are different for me now but, my advice to you would be to maybe find some little job..just so you feel a little more independent. (if that's possible for you..I don't know if your kid/s are school age yet or not) Also just remember...if you want to get out - you can find state help until you get back on your feet. Best of luck to you!!
2007-03-31 14:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy J 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I worked for 10 years before I became a SAHM. Honestly I don't feel dependant on my husband. I feel sorry for him because he is the one who has to pay all the bills.
I have a really good relationship with my hubby so I never think about leaving, but if I had to leave I would stay with family or friends until I got a job. Then I would get half of the house, car, money in our accounts and custody of our kids anyway so I wouldn't worry.
2007-03-31 14:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mary G 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
At least a few times every day and usually at night when I am going to sleep and when I first wake up in the morning. Yeah, those thoughts have crossed my mind. I also didn't realize when I agreed to be a stay at home mom, that it would be next to impossible to get a job afterwords.
2007-03-31 14:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Yomi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes i wonder all the time. I ama stay at home mom and feel like i am trapped all the time. he is a very jealous person and i really can't handle it anymore. my solution is i am trying to get into college and better myself and get a good job then my options will be widely opened!!
2007-03-31 14:47:50 · answer #8 · answered by kellbell 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i've never wondered how i would leave. why would i?i've no intention. as far as being dependent, i'd say i did feel to dependent after we had our first child. i didn't feel right not contributing financially to the household. after a while though, i realized i was contributing in other ways. it all works out in the end.
2007-03-31 14:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes,yes,sometimes.
2007-03-31 14:44:13 · answer #10 · answered by Terri R 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋