How do I deal with the people I hate when they are visiting my family at my house/?

Question

My least favorite cousins are over at my house for the weekend (or longer) and I hate them. We have been hating each other since we were little kids. Now that I am older, and so are they, I want us to stop the hating and truce. I want to get along and have fun around them. I want to start acting nicer to them, but that is a big jump for me b/c I never did nice thing to or for them. But I am nervous and scared because I think he might think that I am a freak or I am weird. I want to get closer to him, but by taking small steps. thnx for your advice:)

Answer 1

OOPS !! You begin by talking about cousins (plural) that you hate. Later, you mention just ONE you want to get closer to. What's the deal with that?
HE may think you're weird but that's not the point. As you've grown up some, it would be normal for you to act more adult so start with that. And yes, don't rush into a big change. Just mention that now that you're more mature, you are sorry you had such a bad time when you were younger and you hope you are grown up enough to become friends.
And by the way, here's something to think about:
When you hate someone, you let them live rent free in your head.

Answer 2

I had a similar experience when I was younger with a cousin as well. We did not like each other or get along. However, It was mostly her not liking me, for no reason. She also proceeded to turn all my other cousins against me. When we were at a family get together, I approached her, and told her I wanted to get along. She scoffed and rolled her eyes. I was so sad. I thought we would be able to get along and bury the hatchet, but she was not interested in a truce. The thing that made me so mad was she would always ask my mom about me when I was not around. So my mom thought she was sooooo nice. It made me sick.And my mom thought I was the one being difficult.

Well, now we are older and she is still a witch! So, some things never change. If your cousin is a reasonable person,unlike mine, I am sure you can call a truce. If he is anything like mine, just leave him alone and go hang out with your friends instead.

Answer 3

Since this is your parents house and you're all older, I think you all should be able to behave politely around one another and speak kindly and respectfully to each other. Just be nice; offer a snack, don't act rudely, be pleasant. Surely your cousins will realize you have matured into a nicer person. I suspect your cousins have outgrown the childish behaviors, too, so you can all redefine your relationship with a little courtesy and some fun.Laughter is always "good medicine." Hey, get the whole family up and do the "electric slide!!" Who could stay mad, dancing and smiling?

Answer 4

I've got the same problem. I hate some of my cousins and I am still not talking to them up to now Even if they come to visit our house, I still manage to ignore them and they also do the same. It is good that you want to start changing your attitude towards them . I think it is better to talk first to someone close to them and ask them what does your cousins think about you, are they willing to be nice to you or they just dont want to be with you.I think it is better to know if they feel the same about you, so you will not hate them even more if they reject you..In my case I rather not have anything to do with those cousins of mine because I just dont like them!

Answer 5

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Sounds like you're maturing in a intelligent way...growing up is - growing out of inappropriate behavior...
Yes we feel scared and nervous doing this kind of thing, but no one is going to think your weird because your acting like
a decent, mature, friendly, fun person!
Be brave - Try it You'll like it

Answer 6

Well maybe they will reason w/ u and tell them how u feel about it