What shall a childless person do to continue his/her name even after death?

Question

I do not have children & I will never have. I did not have brother & mother. Whole life I tried to find motherly & brotherly sentiments in my aunts/brother I never found. I concluded " Kiraye kee cheese Kabhee apnee naheen hoti hai."( Rented things can never be our own)
One of the lady I know adopted & did not tell the son "Whole community knew but not he son" After his marriage his wife who was from the same city told him the son got upset & does not even talk to parents. Father died & mother is in senior home. Another lady adopted the guy never passed High school drinks & prostitutes & treatens her.
I am 55 years old. My maternal feelings are very satisfied with my students. My husband has 2 adult children.They love me respect me I love them too.They are brought up by French Canadian mother we have culture difference.Our principals are different. I am married with pre naptual contract.
What shall I do? Shall I leave my money behind for them or spend for opening schools etc?

Answer 1

Leave your money for the community and the schools. I think you should do this even if you had children of your own. It is a great thing to help the community as a whole. Your students were your children. You can continue to help them even after you're gone.

Answer 2

Hi, Im 33 and a single mom of 2 and have alot of health problems so, my family had me take out a will for the kids sake, I undrstand its difficult on these decisions but its better now. If it was me I would set up a college fund donated by you for a child or chldren that are less fortunate or just need a little extra help getting to college and that would be remembering you forever. And as far as your extended family is concerned, give them something to remember you by always not something that can dsappear in a year or so like money and if they have a problem with that than they don't deserve anything from you. Good luck.

Answer 3

Well, I'm a mother of four and we're always looking to adopt another wealthy Aunt to help send these kids to college......lol (kidding,,kinda)

I think you should continue your name by leaving your money to your "passion". Look around the world, if education is your thing, than sure, let the money go there. Someone will benefit and carry your name in their heart. How about starting a scholarship fund that would continue to grow after you're gone? There are always people that need more money for education, by making it a scholarship fund, you can denote what kind of person gets the money. You could set up how the person wins the scholarship based on your own beliefs about education. (Maybe an essay contest of some sort)

You could also adopt a few family's (you know, like mine) who have the kind of traits you want to see in the world, and educate their children! What a wonderful gift to parents who have the same passion for education.....

All jokes aside, you sound like a very giving person and I'm sure you've already done much, by teaching, to be remembered forever!

Answer 4

Jyoti, who says you can't have your name after you are not there in this world.

Remember Mother Teresa (do you think she had her own children), but she has a name and fame.

All your life you have worked hard to earn the money and reputation.

Start a school and charity. Teach the children that would otherwise not be able to get educated.

It is said "Puut kapuut to kyun dhan sanchay, puut saput to kyun dhan sanchay". Meaning, if your son is a good one he doesn't need your money to live and if he is indeed a bad one he will not remain with your money for long (thus are his habits). That is the reason, our scriptures also advocate charity. If you want the fame do it openly. Otherwise, scriptures say best daan (donation) is which does not let your left hand know what the right hand has donated.

Do it as you wish, if you do it wisely, you'll definitely achieve your goal, whatever it is. Fame or Charity.

Answer 5

Your version is touching. It is clear a son born or brought up does not have much of an attacment. A daughter is different. Every female from 5 years to 90 yrs is a "mother". Adapt a daughter . And when you see a would be son in law speak the truth to both of them. The boy will accept adoption by you and take a surname of your choice.

Answer 6

Since you have a pre nuptial contract it is understood that you get nothing from your husband and I sure it goes to his children. If you are in the position to open a school then I would do that. Your money would do more good and that would be your legacy and in a way your name sake. You can still leave something to his children if you like however I think your money would be well spend on the education of others.

Answer 7

hey lady this is an indian boy. Firstly I don't have any idea of what to say for your life but its like it does not happen in India pre naptual contract marriage I would certainly like you to donate some of your money to charity give some to the kids of ur husband and look one thing I want you to know is Life is long and you will find some one with whom you love very much it may be a school child or a young boy or a man like you any thing just keep ur deeds ready but don't worry life is big

Answer 8

If I understand your question correctly, because for a teacher the paragraph is written weird. Anyways, if you have a great relationship with your stepchildren, and you love them like they were your own, then enjoy that. Thank God above for blessing you with stepchildren if not your own. With the money, do what your heart tells you. Leave a little money for the step kids, and have the rest go to schools. Ecspecially if the step kids will be financially stable without your money after your gone.

Answer 9

You should donate your money to a school or to be given as fully paid scholarships to students that can't afford college. Then the school or college will hang a plaque up in memory of you for all that you have done for students to get their education.

Your entire name will be engraved on the plaque & hung on the wall to be seen by the millions of students who will pass through those hallways. Your name will live on forever. The students that benefit from you generous donation will always remember you for making their lives so much better. "Knowledge is freedom"

Answer 10

Arrange Jyoti at any place with own name.
Start a school, temple etc. like Indira Gandhi airport, Mahatma Gandhi Road, Sanjay Colony, Moti Nagar.
Do good work and all will remember your name. Sometimes children are unable to remember the name of parents. I am popular in clients and un-popular in family.