my so called good friend X and I went with different friends to my friend's eighteenth birthday bash where the entire grade was invited.
the next day I texted him to joke he hasn't called me in a week and dude are u still alive and asked was he at the party? he texted back to say he was and he did call me to find out where i was at the party. that was obviously a lie because my phone didn't have that missed call record. why did he even bother to lie i mean hey i wasn't confronting him that he didn't look for me during the party.
was it because he felt bad for not even bothering to find out where i was at the party? he felt he should have? these few days he's been IMing me to joke and chat maybe he felt bad and want to make up for it?
Now after he's lying as if I am stupid, I am not so sure if he is a good friend. He is avoiding me on purpose? If not for the lie, I wouldn't have even bat an eyelid that he didn't look for me during the party -I didn't look for him either.
2007-03-31 04:07:59 · 13 answers · asked by sau l 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
thats bad
2007-03-31 04:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by RelientKayers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds to me as if you're in love with this guy. It's really not that big a deal. Have you ever taken the time to consider the possibility that either his phone or yours could have been having network problems that night and the text/call couldn't get through, thus explaining the missing 'missed call' record? I often get voice mails with out recieving a missed call message and some times people call me and say "I called you last nigh but you never picked up". In those instances they have absolutely no reason to lie. You should really just calm your nerves and stop being so dramatic about the whole thing. Even if he had lied about looking for you that nigh, why be mad? it's not as if you were anxiously awaiting his arrival... "I didn't look for him either", remember?
2007-03-31 04:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by klg2k2002 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes with cellphones a missed call doesn't register. like have you ever gotten a voice mail and you were like what the crap my phone didn't ring. if he called you and it went straight to voicemail and he didn't leave a message you would never know he called.
Give him a break. just confront him. if he lied he will try and cover it if not he probbaly tried and figured you were havin fun and didn't feel like answering.
in either case you need to talk to him. do you want to lose a friendship over something so petty?
2007-03-31 05:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by Randi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Guys DONT care about stuff like this. He is not sitting around giving this a seconds thought-i promise you. Let it go- stuff happens and you are coming across too clingy, needy. Do the opposite and he will act totally different. Guys hate clingy/needy-they love the chase, esp. girls with their own sense on power. Stop now and switch gears, you will see an immediate change.
2007-03-31 04:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by hmm..imthinking 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look, he proably just had his mind on other things and maybe he used the wrong number or something. I'm sure he wasn't lying and if he was he's obviously trying to make up for it. He sounds like a really nice guy so why don't you just talk to him face to face and figure out whats going on.
2007-03-31 04:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps he was joking with you, too. Maybe he was drunk or high and thought he called you. Maybe he's lying, but who cares. He's not your wife for chrissakes.
Don't act needy and people are more likely to want to be your friend. Lots of people aren't into friendship that involve dealing with other people's needs. They just want to be casual friends.
2007-03-31 04:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My only advice is that there are a lot of questions with a situation like this, and although we could all assume what is going on with him, we dont know.
My suggestion is to ask him. Explain it was a joke (he may not have known) and tell him you know he lied. If he swears he didnt, see if you can see his out-call list to see if he did send out a call that was never received (Its possible I guess). Its the only way to get to the bottom of this and get your friendship back on track.
2007-03-31 04:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by Kris 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
whatever the guys done, if he was lying or not, maybe he might need a little space.
go easy on him, try not to be too paranoid and just forget about it. It's such a minor event that it's not worth the mental hassel you're giving yourself.
take it easy and enjoy his company when you do get to hang out.
2007-03-31 04:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who knows why this happened it could be either he didn't want to spend time with you at that moment or he was mad you came to the party with someone else. Ask your friend if he is mad at you and if he says nothing is wrong then drop it.
Women tend to blow things up bigger then they are and hold on to it.
2007-03-31 04:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by Just ME 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kick back - emotionally -
You have the power to create whatever reality you want, as a result of this situation . . .
You can continue to get more twisted about this, or you can choose to 'chill' - and see what develops in the near future. . . maintain your own integrity - get on with your own interests . . .
2007-03-31 04:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find another friend. This friend has managed to make you miserable. Not exactly the trait that one wants in a friend.
2007-03-31 04:18:25 · answer #11 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋