she does this by constantly by comparing it to her own and pointing out how hers is better. i try to avoid the subject, but it comes up often enough to bother me, and i can't say anything as hers is a minority religion and mine is a majority. it would make me look like a bigot.
2007-03-31 04:03:22 · 10 answers · asked by mikesmom 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There is no "right" answer to this question. From the looks of it, she's not going to stop. So it seems that your options are something to the extent of walking out of the friendship, or spending a lot of time working some kinks out.
When you look at this situation from an outsider's standpoint one can see that no one is really in the wrong. Religion is a very touchy subject, especially for those who feel that the "majority" religions are snuffing out the "minority" religions. You may want to sit down and talk to this friend and ask her why she feels this way and if there's anything you can do to help her, because from the looks of it she's very uncomfortable about something.
When the subject does come up, don't simply ignore it, and don't feed the fire by fighting back. To be completely honest, at this point in the world there is no such thing as a "right" religion; so instead of trying to prove that your religion is better take this as an opportunity to ask her what is wrong. Perhaps she feels that you have wronged her in some way, or that your religion has; or, perhaps, she feels inferior because she is being "persecuted" because of her religion.
The absolute best thing to do is to either bite the bullet and move on, or find out why she feels and acts the way she does.
Good luck!
2007-03-31 05:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bigot or not, the fact remains that what she's doing is wrong and you DO need to tell her. Neither of you will ever truly know who's religion is better until the day you both die.
If she's a real friend, she'll hear you out and either shut her mouth or hit the highway. You have two choices; be at peace with your religion and her friendship or be at peace with your religion and find better friends.
I wish you the very best.
2007-03-31 04:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here is the thing. She is uncomfortable in her religion, and feels the need to prove that it is better (to herself, and maybe to gain your acceptance)
If you have been friends for 30 years, you should be able to have a frank discussion about religion. Not a "my religion is better than yours" or "you need to convert." But a "I'm happy you have a faith you believe in. I am comfortable in mine. Lets agree to disagree and drop this issue."
If they have been friends with you fro 30 years.... it shouldn't be an issue.
2007-03-31 04:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by Adorabilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop. If you have been friends for 30 years you should be able to talk about anything with her.
2007-03-31 04:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say something like, "Excuse me, but it really bothers me when you compare religions. Whatever I believe is my own business. I don't belittle yours," Or something similar.
2007-03-31 04:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it makes her look bad not you. Tell her either it stops now or you will no longer see/ talk to her again cause you are sick of her acting like she is superior to you. Either she stops talking about religion or you should cut your ties.
2007-03-31 04:18:30 · answer #6 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gently and tactfully explain that it bothers you when she keeps up this behaviour. You don't have to suffer because of anyones thoughtlessness. If she cant be your friend, because you want her to stop being rude, then she really isn't your friend.
2007-03-31 04:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don know
sounds like she needs to be converted. whip out the fresh new batteries
2007-03-31 04:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
just look at her and say something like "thats ok, nobody's perfect" or It could be worse I could worship pygmies.
2007-03-31 04:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by Chrissy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she brings it up, say "I don't care to discuss it". If she asks why not, say "I don't care to discuss it". And so on.
2007-03-31 04:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋