My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for 8 years already (since we are 19). We are now 27. I'm very much head over heels over here. We both love each other death. I can't imagine life without her. She is 2 month pregnant. I do not want to have a child yet. I was planning to have a child with her. Before she got pregnant, I am planning to marry her. Now that she is pregnant, I still plan to marry her but I don't wan't to start a family yet. Any ideas?
2007-03-31 04:01:19 · 20 answers · asked by Salsa Dancer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
discuss it with her
2007-03-31 04:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by skcs11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is happening whether you were planning it or not. If she is pro-life, the baby is coming. If you truly love her and were planning on marrying her, this should just be an exciting edition to an already great life. Although it didn't happen the way you had pictured it, it can still be great. Allow yourself to be happy and supportive of her. She is going to need you. There is a saying that goes like this "Life is what happens when you are making other plans". Enjoy the ride.
2007-03-31 04:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss it with her. You could decide to put the child up for adoption to a family that will allow you to keep in touch with the child and still be a part of it's life, just not a full family. One way or another, you need to decide now.
Personally, if I were her and you approached me with this, after 8 years together, I'd be understanding. If you two can survive 8 years, you can survive this. Just talk it over.
2007-03-31 04:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by jbyrd990 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you should have been more careful and planned things out more carefully. Now you will have to re-think things A LOT. It would be best if you still married her but , like I said, you should have been more careful and thought it all out first. There is nothing left to do but have the baby and be a GREAT family for him/her. The baby needs a father AND a mother so don't beak up. Please make sure you are making the BEST decisions no matter what.
good luck! :)
2007-03-31 04:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by prettypixie902 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you cant really help with starting a family now that she's pregnant. Does she want the baby? If she does then talk with her. If not there is always adoption. There's a purpose for this child. See what happens.
2007-03-31 04:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by Cutiepie16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. If you didn't want to have a baby, then you should not have had sex with her. Birth control is always an option, but it seems you didn't use that either. You now will have a family. Deal with it, take responsibility for your actions and grow up. 8 years and still not married? What are you waiting for?
2007-03-31 04:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say you laid in the bed and made that baby, so you best get used to the idea of being a daddy. Sounds to me like you love this girl. I know that you will fall instantly in love with your child as soon as you either see it or you feel it kick. Sorry to be so blunt, but you best grow up and take your responsibilty.
2007-03-31 04:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by Christina A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear, what can you do? She is already pregnant. Babies are not something people can really plan for. They are a blessing. Just try to go with it. I think she'd be devastated if you insinuated you'd prefer her to have an abortion. ESPECIALLY after she is two months pregnant with your child.
2007-03-31 04:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that after the baby is born u'll be happy that u have a child it's okay to have doubts and stuff but I think that being a dad is the best thing ever....don't ever tell ur grilfriend that u don't want a baby (big mistake) hang in there and u'll be happy that u have some1 else specila in ur life. good luck to u and ur new family
2007-03-31 04:10:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day you have to realise what important to you, you want a family eventually whats wrong if it happens a bit earlier then you planned, you have to stop thinking of your feelings and think about your gf, how she might be feeling? the main thing is you love each other and are happy,
2007-03-31 04:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by Charlotte S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be more responsible. Marry her as soon as possible because the baby needs both a father and a mother.
2007-03-31 04:09:25 · answer #11 · answered by Diana S jimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋