i dont know what to do, we have been together for 2 years but just got into this big fight when those words came out of his mouth. he now says he loves me, and he just gets mad when we fight and wants out. what do i do? now i feel as though he doesnt even want to be with me and he is only staying because he feels bad and is emotionally attached, but wants out. please give me advice!
2007-03-31 03:15:17 · 22 answers · asked by Ash 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he said he sometimes feels "strapped down"....im so in love with him and i really dont know how to deal with these feelings. i just want to be with him.
2007-03-31 03:17:48 · update #1
he is scared , and doesnt relise that he is committed already , all of us guys want to be single , because of the freedom , but like with you guys , there is an emotional problem with that , and cant be one or the other , .. i would probably guess that he said it in the spur of the moment and didnt mean it , if he says he loves you when you say it , then he loves you ! it isnt nice to say things like that , so you need to get a answer to see if he is doing it for manipulation , the thing is , if he genuinly wants out , let him , .. you will be hurt , but you will at least have acknowledgement that it was fully because of his own personal reasons , not yours!
2007-03-31 03:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by DSV 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He spelled it out to you. He feels saturated in this relationship and is trying to get out the "nice way". Dropping hints, et al. Have some self respect and don't cling on to the relationship. It's not working and somehow you know it too. You're just trying to work it out because it's a two year old relationship but please realize when there is no love, there is nothing left to work upon. Give yourself a break. You'll find someone more deserving of you in due course of time.
2007-03-31 10:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a part of him wants to be single and he always seems to be wanting out during a fight, then you should let him go because you're in the relationshipfor the wrong reasons.
2007-03-31 10:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, the "part" that wants to be with you is beneath his underpants. His emotional connection is not there and he doesn't know how to do the whole break up thing. If you are of solid mind, take some space and find a new lover, or spend some alone time to rediscover yourself.
2007-03-31 10:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me from someone who knows what its like to be with someone who doesnt love you as much as you love them... all that is ahead is heartache, if you keep him tied into a relationship that he doesnt want to be in...
Best to break it off and see what happens, he will respect you more for it, he may just need more time, or the break to decide what he really wants...and he could come back.. because he wants to, not because he feels obliged
dont let it get messy as it will ruin the memories of the nice stuff you have had together.
2007-03-31 10:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by mz_recruiter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, people can be very mean when they are angry. Does he say these things to you often? If yes then I would say get out of that relationship before he ends up emotionally hurting you very badly. If the answer is this is the first time, tell him how badly he hurt you, and hopefully he won't do it anymore. If he continues to do it, leave, you do not need that crap.
2007-03-31 10:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look face the facts! Just go up and ask him? Tell him to tell u the truth! You need to know what to do! The best way to solve this is to talk! Ask him which part is he going to listen to?
IF u do break up still be friends! Your takeing edvice from a girl who has been dateing the same guy for 6 years today!
I hope everything works out for u! E-mail me and let me know how its going! My e-mail adress is kassiemiller1995@yahoo.com
2007-03-31 10:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by kassie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you better talk to him and ask him straight to the point. maybe he loves you but he's no longer not inlove with you. that's a different thing. get? the only thing you can do is to ask him what he thinks about the relationship. then if it's over then move on. you can always find a better guy. guys are just around, you can just pick anytime. goodluck girl. don't let yourself hurt too much!
2007-03-31 10:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he wants to break up and as you said he feels bad or doesnt want to upset you and thats the only thing thats keeping him. also after two years you sort of become attached to one another and get so used to being with eachother that its hard to break up and will be hard for both of you. but i am 100% positive you should break up.
sorry to hear btw :(
2007-03-31 10:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by Mj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime me and my gf get into fights and i say pretty similar things but that's just being said out of anger i don't really mean it so i wouldn't let it get to you
2007-03-31 10:22:47 · answer #10 · answered by yeager 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋