My boyfriend only gets about 5 hours of sleep (at his house) on weeknights because of his job. But most of the time he falls asleep at my house. Last night I made plans to hang out at his house with a bunch of my friends and some of his friends were supposed to come too. But we were at my house and he slept the whole time while I got ready, then I had to drag him out of my bed to go back to his house. Then when we got there he passed out on the couch after being there for about 5 minutes. We stayed at his house all night and he slept all night and when I had to go home he could barely wake up to drive me home. Then I said that it kinda made me upset that he just slept all night and didnt hang out with me at all, and he got really mad at me and left and basically broke up with me(yeahright we do this all the time =[ ) He was completely convinced that it was ok to sleep away our time together. Am I that wrong for being upset? What should we do ?
2007-03-31 03:14:28 · 22 answers · asked by bzz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is a hard worker, leave him alone~
2007-03-31 03:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by Zorro 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are both right....and you are both completely wrong. When your man is completely exhausted, that is the WRONG time to complain to him about being always exhausted. But he also has to accept that 5 hrs a sleep a weeknight is not enough, and that the cumulative effect is that he crashes on the weekend, which overdone is not conducive to a relationship or any kind of social life.
He needs to address the root cause problem (a new job maybe? ) and you need to be a bit more caring. Being angry at him won't fix the issue--he can't NOT be tired in this circumstance. So if he doesn't fix the root cause problem, then maybe you should leave to find someone who can have a real realtionship. But dont get mad at him over a physical issue--get mad at him over the real one.
2007-03-31 03:20:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's understandable that you're upset. But it's also understandable that the guy just wants to sleep. If you've never slept 5 hours a night, you won't understand this.
So maybe if you're making plans, plan it so that he had enough sleep when time comes for important things. You can invite him to your house one night and let him sleep and then the next night make plans to hang out.
If he can't stay awake but he has to, his time with you will be painful.
2007-03-31 03:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Scuffix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only get 5 hours of sleep at night when working, so I know what that is like. My wife hates it, but likes the money.
Assuming that he worked this much when you started going out, you are wrong in being upset. Unless he is going out & doing other things.
You need to let him sleep. Go out with your friends if you need to.
On the weekends (or his time off) you should have plenty of time together only make it quality time.
If this isn't good enough you both need to move on because He likely won't change his job & you are never gong to be emotionally satisfied
2007-03-31 03:26:41 · answer #4 · answered by freshex2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah you are wrong. the guy obviously needed some sleep. He was sleeping while you got ready he immediately fell asleep when he got back to his house. You should have called everyone and canceled. I'd dump you if I were him. You are being pretty insensitive. Sleep is not a luxury it is a necessity. 5 hours a night is not enough.
2007-03-31 03:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're breaking up and getting back together constantly and this is a reoccurring theme, maybe it's time to move on and find someone who has the energy you have. Other wise you're just going in circles. weigh the good and the bad, compare if the good is greater then the bad in the relationship and you're happy then you'll just have to deal. But if this is not making you happy, no reason to stay.
2007-03-31 03:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by Russo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should only go out on the weekends and have short calls (5-15 minutes) during the week. He obviously needs the sleep.
2007-03-31 03:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by PF32 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you two were married and he had to work two jobs and needed to catch up on sleep constantly, that's one thing. He's not in a relationship with you....he's in a dream state without you.
He really has top decide whether he wants involvement and if he does, he has to make time while awake for it.
2007-03-31 03:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged to a man like that and I couldn't take it. It was like not being with a man at all when he was always sleeping. Is he legitmately tired? If he really cannot help it then try to be understanding but if you are miserable just tell him or break it off.
2007-03-31 03:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by LDR02 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You do 5 hours of sleep on week days and see how you feel when someone gets p*ssed off with you because you are so knackered at the weekend.
2007-03-31 03:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Gnu 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are extremely right for being upset and he's wrong for getting angry. While he may work all the time and get less sleep, my fiance gets less sleep than that and he still spends time with me, even if he's tired. And if you end up 'breaking up' all the time, it's not a good relationship and you should break it off because he's being a lazy bum!
2007-03-31 03:20:41 · answer #11 · answered by jbyrd990 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋