im 14 and im graduating from middle school and being confirmed soon.so, i want to start staying up later, but everytime i tell my mom that she yells at me. and everytime i do ANYTHING, not even if its wrong, she yells at me. and she always takes my phone away and neverrr trusts me with anything... what should i do?
2007-03-31 02:43:03 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
get a movie you both can watch and watch it together late. show her you can be up late and be responsible.
just talk to her calmly. mothers don't understand the language of yelling.
2007-03-31 02:46:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not seem that way to you now, but Moms worry. It's what we do.
Watching our children (especially our daughters) grow up is hard. It makes us feel a little bit old, and we worry about how you'll turn out, and whether you'll run off with some no-account boy, or get prgnant and drop out of school. It doesn't matter if you're doing anything wrong -- we're just worried, and some moms don't know how to deal with it.
Remember that your phone -- it's really not yours. While you are still a teenager living at home, your parents still set the ground rules. Don't do anything to make them mistrust you, and the benefits will come to you.
(She doesn't want you staying up late because she knows if you don't get enough sleep, you won't concentrate in school and your grades will slip!)
2007-03-31 02:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by kelannde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the all trust. Offer to do things at home. Like washing the dishes, house chore etc. Your mom yells at you is because she worried about you more than anything. Maybe you are not independent enough. Don’t said you didn’t do anything wrong. Ask your mum where your mistake is and learn from it. Let her know 1 or 2 days early if you want to do anything or go anywhere on that day. So she could have the whole information clearly. Give your friends number to your mum if you are going out with them so she could get you from your friends if she can’t get through you from your hp.
2007-03-31 03:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by Gravity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young one! Ur mother loves u & is worried about u,if she didn't care she would do &say nothing.First>as for staying up late ? 1st,ur are 14- u need to get at least 8 to 9 houre of sleep>u need to play &get exercise&eat well &correctly.u r not done growing yet. I am a mother of 27 children.I had 8&my new husband had 5 then there r grand kids,great grand kids & i am still not done "raising "children.take my advice!need to talk more write me @badassgrandmother@yahoo.com You need answers & I can help u get through these rough times &in time if u listen to me u will have a "nicer"relationship with ur mother.I do &I think it's the greatest thing in the world.write me we'll talk more my name is "Lisa".Take care of u >
2007-03-31 02:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by lisa c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems such as you will desire to take a seat along with her and have a communique with reference to the type you sense. in case you have yet another person which you have confidence, they'd take a seat with the two one among you and help mediate. that is totally in all risk that your mom has some valid factors...spending too lots time on the information superhighway is something a mom is meant to maintain you from doing. yet, calling you names is obviously no longer effective. in case you do no longer sense something like that would desire to artwork, seek advice from a school counselor, or pastor in case you have one. they are in a position that could be useful you artwork by way of your thoughts, and understand what issues your mom is asserting that are valid, and what issues are no longer valid. better of luck!
2016-10-01 23:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mother is very unhappy. I'm a mom of two girls and I know what worked best with me: be sweet to your mom, show her some friendliness (offer to play cards with her or watch a movie together) and respect (offer to help her around the house, etc.) and she'll warm up a lot. The sooner you start acting more like an adult and less like a child, the sooner she'll treat you more like an adult.
2007-03-31 02:48:39 · answer #6 · answered by cavyslave2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go of the "I never do anything wrong"
attitude. Apparently you do or she wouldn't be yelling and taking things away from you. Learn to regain her trust. Step up and grow up.
2007-03-31 02:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she see it as, her baby is grown up and he want u to be a kid longer but your going to the high school. I can relate to that I'm 14, and my mom dose the same thing. I just asked her why she was yelling at me. She told me that, She didn't want me to grow up to soon.
Hope I helped.
2007-03-31 02:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by honey.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait 4 more years until you are an adult and you can go to college, get an education, get a career, get married and then one day, you can yell at your 14-yr old also.
2007-03-31 02:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by khrome_wind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look man, im 23, and i am going to tell you some thing that you will not understand until you get older and look back at what your mom did.
she is just trying to keep you out of trouble because she loves you and cares for you.
2007-03-31 02:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by shank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋