My loser of a brother is 28 and still has a part time job which is terribly paid yet he is quite content. Can someone explain.
2007-03-31 02:42:05 · 24 answers · asked by Starbucks27 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He has few needs and little ambition...
2007-03-31 02:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
You don't miss what you never had - if you don't have a lavish lifestyle, you don't really care that you haven't got one.
More responsibilities there are in a well paid job usually comes with more stress.
Your brothers job doesn't define him as a loser.
A nurse doesn't get paid all that well - does that make them a loser in your book.
Why does your brother bother you so much anyway?
My wife and I view money as important - in the respect that it buys the basics such as food and clothes and we need to pay all our bills the same as you.
However we don't see expensive items as necessary to our happiness.
I bet you don't communicate very well with your brother?
You seem shallow - you judge a person from what they have and what they earn instead of what they are.
2007-03-31 10:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No money is not the most important thing. If your brother has a job that he likes and is happy that is the most important thing. More people should live their lives that way and we would all be a lot happier. Of course, everyone should make enough money to support themselves without spounging off others but if your brother can get by without financial help then more power to him.
2007-03-31 09:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by LDR02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for your brother. He has realised that money doesn't buy you happiness. He has a relatively stress free life, doesn't feel the need to buy himself the ridiculous status symbols that so many other men feel they need (expensive phones, cars etc) and he has time to enjoy himself - time is a precious commodity.
Like my dear old gran said 'No-one ever says on their death bed 'I wish I'd spent more time at work.''
You have made me smile with hope that there are other people like me out there who don't need cash to enjoy their life! You might think he's a loser but he's happy and you are getting bitter and twisted about it, guess whose most likely to have the heart attack at 55 and then who'll be a loser? Big cheers and hugs and general loveliness going to your brother!
2007-03-31 10:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by Leapling 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Every one is different, To some having lots of money is more important to others travelling the world or having babies but realistically to do most of these things you need money anyway so yea i guess money is an important aspect in everyones life.
2007-03-31 09:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by cheekychimp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men would like a low paid job but it fulfills thier needs. The man is content!
2007-03-31 10:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by confused 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should read "Ethics for a New Millenium" by the Dalai Lama. One theme in the book is that industrialized civilizations live in a materially rich society yet boast the highest rates of stress, phychosomatic ailments and other mental health problems. At the same time, peoples of 2nd and 3rd world countries display higher levels of emotional well-being despite living in impoverished communities. The main message of the book is that we must learn to find true happiness within, especially given our lavish material surroundings.
Your brother probably can find things in his non-material life that make him happy. Maybe he's excited about his relationship with his relatives, fond memories, his physical health, his spiritual future.
I think the simpler life brings with it many pleasures. I try to imagine myself without money, sitting in some aging center living out the last years of my life. And I start to wonder what I would enjoy doing..what would make me happy.
I think it's important to find things to do that require minimum money and maximum pleasure. Me personally, I enjoy walking, camping, mountain biking, exercising, listening to music, road tripping, pets, friends, star-gazing, bonfires, reading, movies. Nothing too extravagant.
You know what they say, the best things in life are free.
2007-03-31 10:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by bradpittstuntdouble 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No1 definitely not! money can make people happy but make also people sad and too much desires of money will makes people selfish, and greedy. why do you have to call your brother a loser? considering you are his sister, Iam also working and only gained a little but i dont mind having paid a small amounth wha tis more important is you are ahppy on what you are doing and your brother diffinitely happy on what he is doing you should be proud of your brother instead of judging them.
2007-04-04 02:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by Pheuls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what you want from life. also do you have kids?. if you only have yourself to worry about life is so much simpler. on the other hand along with the joy that kids bring, they also bring the need to earn more money. i do think that it is the driving force in most peoples lives. look at work for instance. i work my bum off in this house and garden. but because it earns no money it is discounted as worthless. and yet my husband gads around town in his taxi taking people here and there and because it pays money he is seen as far more important then me. can you feel the bitterness here??
2007-04-03 04:08:25 · answer #9 · answered by fat momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest - I would love to be rich one day, lol, but i'm not that greedy, and if i had to choose between money and family- well family definately comes first. But my mom is similar to your brother - she doesn't care about money of material values, and only worries about the wellbeing of the family. It's like people in africa ond poor countries- theyre so poor but just get on with life. People have different priorities!
2007-03-31 14:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by peace! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think money is everything. It sounds like your brother is not interested in materialistic things hence his contentment with his poorly paid part time job.
If a person is satisfied with their social (family, friends, love) life, often money is not a major issue.
2007-03-31 09:49:19 · answer #11 · answered by JezabellaCat 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋