I worked three double shifts and you know what he does since it was payday? He went out and got drunk! He left our two kids at his moms and picked them up at 2:00 in the morning! I was so angry! He claimed his boss took him out for drinks for working so hard I do not beleive him! I also have been working hard and you know what I have been doing since I got home at 7:30 A.M. ? You guessed it drinking that is what he gets for doing what he did! How do I get rid of this anger? I mean keeping are kids up till 2:00 A.M. so he can drink come on. WE are both off today so I will drink and he will watch the kids!
2007-03-31 02:10:09 · 25 answers · asked by I love screwdrivers! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To janicaja why do men deserve a night out and not the women?
2007-03-31 02:17:41 · update #1
I would not say anything until you calm down.
You need to get some rest.
Why dont you spend half the day getting a facial or massage and then come home relaxed and confront him about how you feel.
With you being tired and angry & dissapointed, it could get really rough, so give him the "I'm not happy look" and go out without saying a word.
He has done wrong and a responsible father,wouldnt pick up kids at 2am & especially after he's been drinking.Ouch
2007-03-31 02:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by kriskros54 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you arent being very responsible because he was being foolish. What is the use of two juvenile parents? Nice set up for the kids. They can say both my parents were like children. I would say to him, children do not and should not be wakened in the middle of the night. Tell him maybe he can go out one night and next week you can. But why dont the parents give you both a break together. I am sure you both work hard. But you are handling it totally wrong and your poor children. That is so bad what you are doing. If you both are going to act so immature why did you both have to bring kids into the world. You know you shouldnt be drinking at 7:30 am...you are mentally messing up your kids..not good..
2007-03-31 09:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, you sound as if you are sooooo tired, how inconsiderate of him to do that, not only to you, but to his children. Men can be such babies at times. I think what you need is to go and get your hair done and buy yourself some new clothes and treat yourself a night out with the girls. Doing what you are doing by drinking also, you know it is not the right answer, as a matter of fact it will make the situation worse. So, go on, go out and treat yourself, you deserve it. Then when the anger starts to subside, sit quietly together and discuss the situation, sounds like you both need a good holiday away together...... Good Luck
2007-03-31 09:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems like their are family issues that you guys need to work out.
although you may seem like the right thing is to drink and prove to him hes wrong, its not. Cause not only is this making him even more angry and digging into the situation more, its really probably making your kids confused, and really sad to know that their parents both drink, and that their mom is doing it to get back at their dad. In my opinion, I think that you shoudl talk to you husband, (not drunk of course) and tell him that you've had enough with his drinking issues, and that he needs to start coming home after work. Also say, that if he loves you and the kids as much as he should, then he should come home to take care of you guys. If you talk out your issues instead of digging into them deeper, then the issues have a greater chance of being resolved. You guys also must remember that the kids are most important, and you shouldn't argue at all or even drink infront of them. Because I know that when I watch my parents drink, or argue, etc. I feel very down on MYSELF, and i feel really badd.
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2007-03-31 09:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dads hungover and moms getting drunk in the morning? He drove the kids home drunk? And now you are drinking to get back at him. You arent hurting him at all, the only people you are hurting is your kids. This situation is dangerous. Had dad got pulled over last night, you could have lost your car and your kids. No you arent worried or upset about that, you are worried because you didnt get to have the same fun?
Who is taking care of the kids? You both need to get your priorities straight or just plan on having f***ed up kids.
2007-03-31 09:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking is not the answer. The kids need one parent to be the role model. Drinking may make you feel better but it only hurts the situation and the the kids. Be the bigger person and stay sober. It will give you better vision and help you make better decisions for you and your kids. Don't use his faults as an excuse to do the wrong thing yourself. The kids need you.
2007-03-31 09:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick O 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like your husband needs to grow up hes actn 18 years old!! he has a wife and kids and he acts like partying is more important yes even know your older and have kids you can still have fun go out, but hes not doing it in the right kind of way!! you should sit him down tell him that you think hes lieing (as you said) and that he needs to be actn like a hisband and a father not a 18 year old!!! much more thin that why isnt he going out with you??? is he hidding something i dont think a boss is gonna take a person they work with out all night till that early in the morning just bc the work so hard... im srry i dont believ that one bit!! just tell him everything u told us! asap
2007-03-31 09:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by becca m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop drinking and take care your your kids. Leave this man and make a life for yourself and your children. What are you teaching your kids by staying and acting just like him. Get some help fast!
2007-03-31 10:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, your getting drunk is guaranteed to solve this thing. For the bonus, let's teach our children problem solving means get drunk. Look you are tired and he made a mistake. Get some rest and then have and exchange to determine his level of remorse. If this is repetitive behavior you have a problem. If it is an isolated event move on.
2007-03-31 11:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is just a symptom of a greater problem. If you both can't talk through this then it sounds like you both need some counseling. He sounds like he needs AA. Your "solution" continues to let the children lose! Please find an alanon group or a counselor for your anger. Don't let the children fall through the cracks.
2007-03-31 09:18:17 · answer #10 · answered by AlwaysOverPack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋