what would you do?
2007-03-31 02:03:08 · 32 answers · asked by big burts bollox 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It at that at the moment. Am trying to deal with it and she really wants to be mates..but I got to know her cause I liked her and thought she was cool and that....not to be mates. We get on really well but I'm not sure if I want to/can do.
I'm not sure if I'm being selfish there, I don't know what to do..... Either forget her or try to move on with us as friends...
Answers on a postcard (e-mailed postcard) please....
2007-04-01 09:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by oohgravy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh goodness I've been there!
I fell so totally in love with a guy. Although he was in a long distance relationship with someone else we had started seeing each other. I thought he was so gorgeous, so wonderful and he promised me everything - marriage, a new life in another country. He would quote poetry and tell me how much he loved me. He said it was only fair to break up with the other person face to face and I agreed. He came back engaged to her. I was devastated. I really didn't think I could live with the pain of losing him.
That was 10 years ago. Now I have been with a wonderful partner for 8 years. So I guess what I am saying is that there isn't just one person in your life that you will want forever. If it goes wrong it is possible to find someone else who you will love differently bu just as much if not more.
2007-03-31 03:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like I'm dealing with that now and, to make things worse, I sit next to that person at work and have to see him every single day. Every day I am reminded of not having the one that I want. As time passes, the longing is getting less intense. I try to remind myself of all the negative things I can find about this person and downplay the positive (the reverse of what we usually do when we have a crush on someone!)
2007-03-31 02:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jebbie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I tried to get on with my life. I had a child & married someone else & ended up divorced. Nobody could come even a close second to my one true love. I was always wondering what if. Then guess what??? After I divorced he also became available & we got together again. Sometimes it all comes down to timing. You can try to push your feelings aside & get on with your life but deep down you know you are settling. I can only comment on my situation as I know we were meant to be together & it was circumstance that kept us apart! I knew he loved me too. It would be difficult to comment on someone elses situation if you didn't know how the other person felt. If they did not return the feelings then I would suggest that they are not your true love, & get on with your life.
2007-03-31 02:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tiga 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want that person to be your true partner, or just want him/her because they're popular and "i've got to get him/her into my world"?
If it's the 1st option: Tell that person exactly what you see in him/her and that you want to have a relationship with them. If the person feels the same way, he would know what to do. Else, you knew and I hope you can move on with knowing he's not right for you.
2nd option: Forget it if you just want to possess that person. He/She deserves a better relationship than being owned!
Either way, good luck!
2007-03-31 02:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by Alice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wantable seems to be married. About all you can do is take it as encouragement that there are such a thing as wantable people, and when the planets line up just right you might find one other these people when they are still single.
2007-03-31 02:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that`s how i feel at moment and have for a long time about a lady i`ve known since we were 18 now 40 have met up with her recently and stayed with her (we live 140 miles apart) if she doesn`t have same feelings for me it will take long time if ever to move on... this is 1st time in 22yrs we have been single at same time but i have always had feelings for her
2007-03-31 02:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
happened to me. im kinda over him now. i stopped talking to him as much. tried to make myself think he was not good enough for me...think that your way better than him and he can neva lay his fingers on you. i know its very difficult to move on..but gradually as time passes it will all start fading away into the past. just look around and try spending more time with a close friend. talk to them and keep ya mind away from that person. my friend is great..she used to always say to me 'hes well not worth even coming near you'. and i kept that in mind.
P.S the last thing you wanna do is let it get to you, try not to think about it...move on.NEVER CRY FOR SOMEONE WHO WOULDNT CRY FOR YOU...COZ YOUR TEARS R VERY SPECIAL.
good luck hun x
2007-03-31 08:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize that in 20 years you will barely remember the guy's name. Move on, there are plenty of guys you will want just as much, you just don't know them yet.
2007-03-31 02:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would check out an online dating service, some are paysites, some are 100% free, and there's tons of different ones. you'll find lots of women right near you and maybe one of them will be your match.
2007-03-31 02:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by Curt C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋