Is it your experience that when you offer to do something for a friend of the opposite sex, you might forget if you only see him/her as a platonic friend,
whereas if you have an interest to develop the relationship further into more than friends, you are more than likely to remember to carry out what you offered?
I mean, for things as simple as, remembering to ask someone else for an answer to a question.
2007-03-31 01:41:46 · 18 answers · asked by Lilliana 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was thinking in terms of different guy friends of mine, whilst chatting with me in different instances, they may have offered to do small things for me, and then some of them would forget it later.
2007-03-31 01:51:49 · update #1
if i'm understanding you correctly then yes i think it's true that if you are looking for a relationship with someone you will make an effort to remember conversations, keep promises and do them favours.
with good friends you may be more inclined to forget to do stuff because you know they won't mind and you dont have to impress them.
some people would always keep promises for everyone though (friends and crushes) so it is not a hard and fast rule.
hope that helps :)
2007-03-31 01:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by applysomepressure 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now this is also my problem, I have many males friends which are actually friends but the odd 2 that I actually feel attracted to, but even tho we both agreed the potential is there, we still see each other as frends, or so he thinks! I helped him get a new girlfriend he'd liked for a while and i feel like i made a mistake, then theres the other which is still getting over his ex, for a while i nagged but that wasnt the rite thing, it was onyl pushing him away, the bottom line is you have got to let time decide and see hwo things go, if u do wot i did with guy 2 u push them away, if you dont act atall like guy one u may miss ur chance, so pick ur moment, you'll feel when its rite.
2007-03-31 08:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by sweetstuffturk 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly,
its really in u, if u respect yourself enough to be treated equally.
i see it as a word of honour.. whether platonic or crushes or fantasies, marriage & even enemies ... u will remember/honour to do that something that u offered/promised to do in d beginning.
i mean just think about it, how would u feel if someone else did that to u?! it would just devastate u won't it?!
but hell yeah ... I FORGET ALL D TIME... whether i have intentions or NOT for u!
i say... if u don't what it to happen to u... don't do it to others! well i'm an exception... like i said... i forget all d time :p
cheers to that!
2007-03-31 09:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mdm89 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes its happen most of the time due to fickle mentality of the guy/babe but we should not take the things seriously because how can!a two- three or short talk can impact on your mind.here required , to judge the person in a phase give more time to each other.
it shouldn't like u surrender simultaneously at that moment.
yes there a all creature are present on the net some of them are professionally doing the practice .
its there hobby to deceive the opp site sex. breach the faith of that one which whom he/she was talking little while ago.
u must take all these things in your account before going into deep.
2007-03-31 09:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by raghav s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be a friend frist, if something comes out of it, it will. yes, you are more likely to remember things more, but just remember, if you want a good relationship, I think you need to be friends frist. Hope this help
2007-03-31 08:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by floralgirl1960 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, self interest is not what motivates me. I do it simply because I said I would. But, other people do not do the same back. And in my situation it has zip zero to do with a relationship of more than friends. And it makes me mad, and hurt, and irritated.
2007-03-31 08:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by swamp elf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, if I offer to do something I will do it regardless of to whom I made the offer. Why would you "forget" to do something you offered to do? Be resposible or don't make the offer in the first place.
2007-03-31 08:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like someone in trying to "buy" love through favors and/or gestures. You don't get love that way. You either love or you don't. No one can make you love them, and you can't make anyone love you. Once you relaize and accept that, you'll be better off, and know when to just throw in the towel. If a guy likes you he will let you know. Guys don't speak in code like girls do, okay, they're not that smart. If he likes you, he will do everything for you, if you're doing everything for him, he is using you. Be smart!
2007-03-31 08:48:17 · answer #8 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, definitely, because you are trying to make an impression on the love interest person.
2007-03-31 08:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by DPL06351 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not following through with your promises, you are not acting as a friend.
And no one cares for a "friend" with those qualities.
2007-03-31 08:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by khrome_wind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋