Would you encourage this behavior as a parent?
2007-03-30 23:56:44 · 17 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I know plenty of parents who reward with money. I personally do not. I think the grades themselves are the reward. We encourage our sons to do their best. I have one son who gets straight A's and never has to try. I have another son who is struggling in school and does not always make such good grades. I work with him on homework and see to it that he has extra tutoring. I know that he is trying his hardest, so when he brings home a C instead of an A, I still praise the effort. We have made it clear to our sons that good grades will allow them to get into their pick of colleges, but we have also made it clear that if we know they have tried their hardest, that we are still very proud. Not everyone is an A student and not all subjects come easy. If our sons have tried hard we will plan a special outing over giving money.
2007-03-31 00:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by lil_hem_n_va 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My parents never did and as a parent now, I understand why. My parents didn't have much growing up and I was one of five children. My dad was paid a military salary and my mom was a stay at home mom. My parents made ends meet every month, but on a military paycheck it wasn't easy. They were always fair though and they figured that if they had to pay one of us for a good report card, they had to pay ALL of us for a good report card. They didn't want us to think that money was the incentive to get good grades. They wanted us to realize that the incentive for getting good grades was personal growth and succcess. There are other ways to reward a good report card. If one isn't careful, they may end up paying their child for everything even though it should be expected.
2007-03-31 07:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by HSK's mama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We talked about this issue in one of my child psychology classes. There are obviously many opinions about the subject, but in my opinion I think it has a lot ot do with your child. Some kids don't need a monetary or physical reward and praise is their encouragement. I would try other things before I started giving out money for good grades, but if it is one of the only things that work for your kids, it might be the way to go. Good luck!
2007-03-31 07:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by jenlynn42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldnt, you shoudl expect your child as standard to behave and do well however a trip to the book store for an educational fun book would be quite appropriate for young children.
If you start dishing out money now you will be always expected to do so and as they grow older they weill want more money.
And if for any reason in the future you are a little hard up and you havent the finances to give them money then what message is that leaveing??? i can be naughty now!
2007-03-31 07:01:43 · answer #4 · answered by Angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do. I don't think it's a good idea. I want my kids to study for the joy of it, and because they will reap monetary benefits when they put it to use! Not because Mom's going to give them $10 for an A. And what if the kid tries her heart out and just can't make the grade? Soooo not fair.
But, each family is different, and it may work for some people.
2007-03-31 07:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not but i don't think it's a bad thing. It might be more meaningful to your child you reward with time together doing something fun like watching a dvd, going for an icecream, a trip to the beach or whatever your child would find amusing. Congrats on the achievement of your child.
2007-03-31 07:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do, but mine never did. I always had good grades, so they didn't think that they had to encourage me to do better. I've heard that some of my friends get $20 for every 'A' listed on their card--poor me, that means I'd be getting $160 a term (7 class hours, plus extra '8th hour')!
Oh well, they don't really need it. If they need the extra cash, they can get a job!
2007-03-31 12:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by Busta 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well this happens with means of money of some material reward we give to kids for putting on best effort or doing some chores. Its kind of bribery but its quite acceptable these days. Spartan
2007-03-31 07:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by Spartan Total Warrior 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My teenage daughter recently was rewarded with money by her grandparents. If I can, I will also reward her for her efforts. She isn't always rewarded, and never expects to be. She is mature and knows that the biggest reward is achieving her goals.
2007-03-31 07:13:17 · answer #9 · answered by Silver 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't. Good grades are part of her job. However, once she's a teen, I might resort to it if necessary... I can't see that far into the future.
Right now, because she knows it's expected, there is no cash. I do, however, show her I'm proud of her hard work by celebrating with her - taking her to the movies, to get a manicure, to her favorite restaurant, something like that.
2007-03-31 12:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋