he's a bully in school; he hangs out high school kids; he beats on his younger brothers and sister; he won't do any chores without being bribed with money; he cusses more than a sailor; he looks up to his 15 yr old cousin, who's been expelled from school for fighting; smokes cigarettes; gets high on pot; drinks; has sex; cusses; has shotguns his dad buys him; has no respect for his elders, and gets away with all of it!
2007-03-30 22:51:23 · 8 answers · asked by kissmygrittsandbiteme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am the mother of the 11yr old, and I do punish him. I've taken his video games all the way down to taking his door off the hinge. His 15 yr old cousin lives with us and they share the same bedroom together. The high school kids he hangs out with are friends of his cousin's. And his dad doesn't live with us, he's in Florida, so my son only sees him in the summer and x-mas.
2007-03-31 04:35:06 · update #1
Are you his mother? If so, the answer is simple. He gets away with all of that because you let him. Start acting like a parent.
2007-03-30 22:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep him away from his cousin at all cost.
Bribe your child if you must. Punish and reward. Punish him for everytime you will hear it or he says it and reward him if he thinks he has controlled it. But do this only in a short period for this may result in him abusing your technique.
Once you'll see some improvements, bring him to social places where people are more descent and kids are more respectful. There's a lot.. find one.
And for crying out loud, he's only 11 years old he still a baby. You better start acting like a real parent now while he is still eleven. You have a few years left before he will be out of control if you don't start acting strictier now. My apologies for this. Realities bite. And if you need help, see his guidance counsellor at school for more suggestions.
Again, KEEP HIM AWAY FROM THE COUSIN AT ALL TIMES AT ALL COST.
2007-03-30 23:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by junbucao 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me start by telling you that this is pretty typical with 11 year old boys but seriously you do need to try to sit down and have a heart to hear with your son and if he tries to hit or cuss at you try to restrain him and chores ground him for a week and make him do chores for free don't feel sorry for him he needs to be gaining responsibility to learn to grow to be an adult If you don't do this now he might not ever grow out of it and when he is old enough you will be getting those 2 am calls from the jail house asking you to come and bust him out My kids know that if they call me at 2 am someday they will not be getting out for a while they will sit and wait to be gotten out by someone else or they will wait to be released.
2007-03-31 03:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by tonyab197627 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DISCIPLINE DISCIPLINE DISCIPLINE
You are the parent; he is the child. Where did he learn to curse? Who lets him hang out with high school kids? Who lets him beat up his siblings? Who tolerates his disrespect? You can't blame the cousin; the blame rests on the parent who lets him hang around the cousin. If you waited until now to teach him respect, you waited eleven years too long. He needs strict guidelines at home and at school. It's up to the parent to set the rules and follow through with consequences if the rules are broken.
2007-03-31 01:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kinda late to start disciplining him now. It's going to take a strong hand. What used to be called tough love. James Dobson has a book called the strong willed child. It's great. But you have to love your son enough to let him hate you for awhile if necessary. I know from experience. It won't be easy or fun. But the longer you wait the more you risk losing him to what ultimately will only hurt him or could even cost his life. He needs serious help, now.
2007-03-30 23:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by syllylou77 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take something away from him that he loves so much, he'll do exactly what you say. Or explain to him he wont be rich and famous if he curses like a mad rapper. Tell him if he wants to be bigger, better, and more successful than his bum cousin, then he has to listen to you to avoid making the mistakes you've made in your past.
2007-03-30 22:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by heavydeezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think as a parent I would have let it get this far.Put him sports,4-H, something.Put him a positive situation to give him positive attitude. And I think as a parent,as much as i would hate it, I would call the police on his booty. Let him go to juvy hall. If you do not take these actions he will be in prison later,or worse dead. Think about it. If you love your son,get the judicial system involved.Take him to court for unruliness!!!
2007-03-30 23:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by future nba mom 23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mother needs to show him who's the boss and what will and won't be tolerated. The cousin is not her child and she should not hesitate to throw him out on his *** with a knot or 2 upside his head.
2007-03-31 00:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋