me and this guy had two dates, and i asked him out yesterday..
so we are supposed to meet up on upcoming sunday..
but the thing is, i don't want to meet him for a while....
the reason why i asked him out is that he paid for dinner twice.. i felt some kind of obligation to pay that money back by taking him to good restaurant... (do you think so?)
this guy is really gentle, nice,polite,caring etc.. i do not want to hurt his feeling..
some of my friends told me to raincheck .. but i've already done it..a day before the first date , i was sick.. when he asked me for a second date,i was out of town.(for 2 weeks)... so.... if i tell him some sort of lame excuse, unless it is a very good, he will be very disappotinted and i don't want that to be happened..
What should i do???????? without hurting his feeling..........
2007-03-30 21:44:25 · 8 answers · asked by Abigail L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, the worst thing you can do to a guy is lead them on and then suddenly stop making sense. That's whether you're just wanting some time to decide on things, whether you mean this to be the last thing the two of you do together, or if you're trying to decide what movie to watch.
So if you want my advice, if you want something different, just tell him. Even if there's disappointment for him in any case, he'll appreciate the honesty. Hints and excuses will just make everything harder for everyone.
2007-03-30 21:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel as if you have to pay him back,.. i believe a girl should never chase a guy, you should call him up and tell him what your friends said; raincheck... if he's interested in you, he wait for you.. and even though you change the date, re-assure him you will love to see him soon and you enjoy his company, tease and flirt a little to let him know your interested, but not too much.. trust me, if he's into you, he will be patient.. all the best of luck, hope you get your man!!!!!!
2007-03-31 05:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to dinner get it over with and tell him you never had a male friend before it's kind of cool.He will get the message when they here the word friend they no what it means.
2007-03-31 04:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best thing you can do is to tell him exactly what you feel . . . .if the guy isn't a jerk he'll understand and well won't get hurt. . . . .if he is a jerk then i guess it can't be helped. . . .and the rest is upto you
2007-03-31 04:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Stellar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him for a meal - then tell him you want your space - honesty is the best policy
2007-03-31 04:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by dancingmaveric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with him, tell him your feeling and take it from there...
2007-03-31 04:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of him as 'you ' and how would you deal with him keeping in mind that he is 'you'
2007-03-31 04:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to make good on your promise. you said you would, you should.
2007-03-31 04:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋