would you find that using certain words in there figure of speach ok or is it wrong or am i just beeing out of touch.e.g. that man looks like a prick. " yes he is a ****. so is this acceptable for kids to use.
2007-03-30 21:24:13 · 16 answers · asked by where are all the good men gone 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
my eldest kids are 10 and 8, i always talk like that in front of them, i say alot, prick, biaaatch, crap, ***, ba sta rd, a ss hole, and whatever else, my kids know not to talk this way in front of other people, we save it for home, but they are good kids and dont anyway, it wont hurt them, i dont like using the f word so i find these words more suitable, good luck, and remember our kids are growing so we need to expose them to a bit of the outside world, even if it sounds bad sometimes
2007-03-30 22:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by ROCKMUM LOVES BOWIE 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely not at that age.
Younger children 3-4 years of age will often go through a stage of swearing and using abusive language just for the shock factor effect. That is best ignored and dies out extremely quickly but after five years of age it should be made clear that such language is unacceptable to you and will result in a loss of privileges and their utterances being listened to at all. Therefore any requests will also be ignored.
You might need to take an inventory of the language that is used around them or they have available on TV, DVD etc.
It is unfair to expect youngsters not to be influenced by their peers and their elders and you should not allow crude or abusive language into your home at all.
2007-03-30 22:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by Christine H 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much a matter of right vs. wrong, but rather a matter of how you want your child to be perceived. The shock value of swearing is contingent upon your own peer group. In highly educated society a child who swears would be looked upon as crass, and the product of negligent, lazy parents. However, in other demographic areas that same language would be considered kind of cute coming from a child, and something to laugh about. And some others don't really approve of it, but think that it's inevitable to pick up swearing since everyone does it eventually.
Whether your child swears (in front of you) is a matter of your own doing. If you swear yourself, the "do as I say, not as I do" message is incredibly difficult to maintain with children for an extended period of time. You have to ask yourself if swearing is something you can really break the addiction to yourself.
My parents, nor my husband's parents, swore. I never swore myself until I got to college where everyone swore on a daily basis and so did I. In law school I didn't hear swearing on a daily basis, so my amount cut down. By the time I got married and had children no one around me really had a potty mouth, so there was never a need to swear. I hear it occasionally, but not enough to affect my own speech patterns. It's not difficult at all for me not to swear, it just never occurs to me to pick those kinds of words to express myself.
Not only do my children not say any swear words (like I said they are never really exposed to any), but there are other words that are forbidden from being said in our house. Like "shut up", "stupid", "idiot", "dumb", "hate", and "damn". My children (6 and 4) will say things like "I can't stand that.", or "That was not a smart choice." but they don't lash out with hurtful words ever.
2007-03-31 08:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by sunni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you feel is appropriate. In our house i wouldn't like that particular word being used by my children, however they can say quite alot before i put my foot down as i personally feel children should have a voice in this world as well. Any words that demean another person are not appropriate around here but you need to decide what is right or wrong in your environment.
2007-03-31 00:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mishell 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My three year old didnt want to eat his dinner last night. I told him he had to eat half. As I walked away he said Forfookasack. My little girl shouted that he had said a very rude word to which he replied " Its quite alright to say that... Im grumpy" I dont think its nice if at any age a child swears. THere are a kid in my 5 year olds class who told the head teacher " to go F**k himself". I think its really sad. But they only need to hear something once.
2007-03-31 00:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Psycho Chicken! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way you should not use language like this, this is setting a really bad example, you need to think of different phrases/words to use. Imagine your 5 year old using this kind of language in front of the teacher it is totally unacceptable.
2007-03-31 08:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by sharon m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not acceptable.The older ones need to learn respect for the younger ones and need to inderstand that kids of that age shouldnt be hearing words like that.imagine how you would feel if the younger ones teacher called you into school cos he had called them a p****.i'm not a prude but i wouldnt even let the older ones use words like that at home anyway
2007-04-03 03:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by glel29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iknow what you mean when I was young God, bloody were considered swear words my 4 & 6 year old come out with words in sentances and dont realse they are swear words seems to be new vocabulary unfortunatly. I do correct them
2007-03-31 00:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by D D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
....no... kids are still very literal - so your 5y.o is probably thinking "no... not so much like a prick, he looks more like a bad guy".... and it is just rude.
Try to teach some social cues and manners - to them and yourself.
2007-03-31 00:04:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely no way yeah I swear but not in front of my kids I change it to oh flip or sugarlumps if they swear I say please don't use that word again it's not very nice
2007-04-02 09:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by Dilili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋